“How was school today?” I inquired as my 5-year-old daughter adjusted her car seat belt, her little fingers still chubby and adorably dimpled.
“I had a blast!” she exclaimed. “I made a cloud out of cotton balls, and then Peter kissed me on the lips!”
At that moment, I felt as if I had been transported to another realm. It was as if I was floating through time, landing in a bright light where my late grandmother greeted me with a knowing smile.
“Just take me now,” I thought. “They’re trying to break me!”
“Oh, I understand, dear. That’s just parenting,” she quipped, pushing me back down into the driver’s seat to confront yet another unexpected parenting challenge.
This wasn’t the first time I’d been caught off guard. Ever since my three daughters came into my life, I’ve felt unprepared for meaningful discussions. Now that they are 4, 5, and 6 years old, here’s a glimpse into the conversations I didn’t foresee until they were at least 12:
- Sass
Thanks to catchy tunes on the radio, my daughters have learned to deliver snappy comebacks. Yes, I know you were “born this way.” I was there, remember? Now, let’s ditch that crop top. - Death
After attending my husband’s great uncle’s funeral last year, I found myself struggling to balance comforting them with the notion of something better awaiting us, while they insisted on going to heaven to “do whatever they want.” - Girl Drama
The drama starts early. No amount of experience prepares you for the heartache when your child faces social rejection during recess. It feels just as painful as it did when I was their age. - Body Image
“Mom, I don’t want to wear my winter coat because it makes me look fat,” my 6-year-old said. In that moment, I realized I’m now a role model for someone’s self-esteem, and I broke into a cold sweat. - Cursing
I’m not sure where they picked up such language, but it may have been when I reassured her with, “No, sweetheart, you look great. Damn great!” - The Talk
“Mommy, how did that baby get in her tummy?” she asked. “Let’s discuss how that baby is going to come out instead,” I replied. Five minutes later: “And that’s why we don’t kiss boys on the playground.” - Real-Life Villains
Intruder drills have become a routine, and if you have a method for explaining to your kids why this shouldn’t haunt them at night, please share your wisdom. - Technology
No, you cannot have a cellphone for your 7th birthday. You have two friends who also don’t own one. - Social Media
It seems the appropriate age for Instagram is now 10. Yes, 10! When I hesitated, my friends assured me their kids’ accounts are private and only feature silly selfies for a couple of followers. I had to hold back from delivering a classic “kids these days” lecture. - Sports Rejection
Last year, my kindergartner spent most of the soccer season sitting on the bench. She despised it. My husband ended up arguing with the coach, and we decided to quit. The end. - College
According to our financial advisor, by the time our oldest graduates high school, college could cost about 5.2 billion dollars annually! What I thought would just be a few dollars saved here and there has turned into a significant monthly commitment that’s cutting into my wardrobe budget. - From My Friend with All Boys: Mood Swings
You might think you’re safe from navigating girl hormones, but boys also experience their fair share of emotional ups and downs.
To all the parents out there, good luck! The world our children live in is vastly different from our own childhood—everything seems to have advanced by five to seven years, except the crop tops. Thank goodness we didn’t have Instagram back then.
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Summary:
In this article, Emily Harper humorously reflects on the unexpected conversations she has had with her daughters, ranging from sassiness to social media concerns. She shares her experiences with topics like body image, death, and the realities of parenting in a modern world.