Parenting can be an uphill battle. It’s mentally draining and requires a thick skin. Often, it leaves me and those around me feeling frustrated and irritable (sorry, not sorry). Honestly, being the tough mom isn’t my favorite role, but let’s face it—raising kids who grow up to be decent human beings is not for the faint-hearted. It takes courage, resilience, and a hefty dose of “tough love.” So, kids, bring on the attitude, the tantrums, and all the chaos because I’m ready to tackle this parenting challenge head-on.
1. I’m Not Here to Be Your Buddy.
When kids are younger, maintaining boundaries is easier. But as they hit their tween and teen years, the temptation to befriend them grows. Resist it! You’re the adult with life experience and wisdom; you don’t need a 14-year-old as a friend.
2. My Goal Isn’t to Be Popular.
I aim to raise respectful, kind, and well-mannered kids. You won’t learn that from a mom too concerned about being “cool.” If you don’t like me now, that’s fine. One day, you’ll appreciate my approach.
3. Nagging Has Its Benefits.
There’s research suggesting that persistent mothers raise successful daughters. It’s true! After all, who hasn’t asked their kids to clean their rooms for the hundredth time?
4. I Have a Cool Partner.
Yes, my husband is the fun one at home. When he walks in, it’s like a celebrity has arrived. He’s not interested in playing the tough role, so I gladly take on that responsibility—and I do it well, thanks to a little PMS.
5. Tough Love Works.
I experimented with gentle discipline and positive parenting, but it didn’t resonate with my four sons. What does work? A look that can stop a toddler in their tracks or make a teenager rethink their choices.
6. It Takes a Village, but Only If They’re on Board.
Before kids hit the playground, there should be a contract stating that if you see another child misbehaving, you should speak up. I would sign that in a heartbeat! I want my fellow parents to share my commitment to strong parenting.
7. Kids Will Test Your Kindness.
It’s admirable to want to be nice, but kids can sense weakness and will exploit it. They’ll push boundaries and misbehave until you realize the importance of being a tough mom.
8. I Refuse to Raise Manipulators.
Especially as I’m raising young men, it’s crucial they understand that their mother won’t be an easy target. I will not allow them to think they can take advantage of me just because I’m a woman.
9. Want to Be “Cool”? Wait for Grandparenting!
Eventually, the tough phase fades as the kids grow up and move out. Then, it’s time to recharge and embrace the fun grandparent role. We all know the saying: “If Mom says no, ask Grandma.” I can’t wait to be the “yes” grandma!
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