In my early twenties, I was in peak physical condition. Weighing around 120 pounds and dedicating an hour each day to yoga, I finally caught a glimpse of my abs. I felt strong and agile, experiencing a personal and spiritual empowerment that was exhilarating. However, I won’t deny there was a hint of vanity in it; I reveled in feeling attractive. I finally achieved the physique I had long desired.
But that fleeting moment of fitness didn’t last. Life grew busier; my yoga routine faltered, and my eating habits deteriorated. Gradually, the extra pounds crept back, and I lost some of my former tightness. Then I became a mother, and as most can guess, the rest is history.
Fast forward 15 years, and I find myself about 15 pounds away from what I once considered my ideal fitness. With two kids and nearly a decade spent primarily at home with them, I sometimes lament the extra weight and the reduced time for exercise. Yet, along with the physical changes, I have gained valuable insights into health and well-being.
I have come to understand that the ideal body I had in my twenties is simply unattainable as I approach 40. More importantly, I’ve realized that there are far more significant aspects of life than a perfectly sculpted physique.
Even if I returned to my previous workout regimen and maintained my old diet, I would still not achieve that same sleek silhouette. My metabolism has shifted, and my body has permanently altered in certain areas. Like many women in my family, I have curvier hips and a fuller bust. I’ve accepted my genetics rather than fight against them.
Beyond the physical shifts, my mindset has transformed as well. Eating well and exercising make me feel better. When I put on a few extra pounds or skip workouts, I notice a dip in my mood. I’ve stopped pursuing the elusive perfect body and instead focus on nurturing a healthy one.
I want the vitality to chase after my children—and eventually my grandchildren—without feeling winded. I want the ability to climb on a stool to change a lightbulb without straining my neck. I aspire to wake up energized and fill my days with activities I cherish alongside those I love. I desire the endurance to embrace all the blessings life brings and the strength to navigate the inevitable challenges that arise.
So, no matter how many years I have left on this planet, I want to live them feeling good. I recognize that certain uncontrollable changes are inevitable. Just the other day, I sneezed and experienced a little leakage for the first time (yep, I’ll be adding kegels to my regimen!). Menopause looms on the horizon, bringing a host of potential health issues related to aging.
Thus, I roll out my yoga mat a few times a week and hit the pavement for a few miles. I strive to eat healthily most of the time (because let’s be honest, everyone deserves their chocolate and salty snacks). I engage in these practices not just to maintain a healthy weight, but because this is the only body I will ever have, and I want it to endure. I aim to live the rest of my life not just existing but truly thriving.
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In summary, as we navigate life’s ups and downs, it’s essential to shift our focus from the fleeting nature of physical appearance to the lasting value of health and wellness.