Every now and then, I find myself feeling adventurous and decide to take my two boys, ages 3 and 8 months, out for an evening excursion. It’s usually a chaotic time, and yesterday was no exception. We were driving back from the mall during peak traffic, and the moment we got into the car, both boys erupted into tears. The sound was almost comical, and instead of panicking, I found myself chuckling—an indication that something has shifted within me.
In the past, I would have been frantically reassuring them, saying, “We’re almost home!” while reaching back to comfort my youngest. Often, I would sing loudly in a futile attempt to drown out their cries and speed up the traffic. This time, however, I remained calm and silent, aside from my brief laugh. It dawned on me that I might be transitioning from a new mom to one who is more seasoned. As I merged onto the highway, I reflected on the many ways my perspective on motherhood has transformed since my second child’s arrival.
1. I React with Less Panic
When my youngest wakes up from a nap, I no longer rush to his side as if he’s in danger. Instead, I finish my tasks before checking on him, knowing it’s okay to take my time.
2. I Embrace Crying
I’ve come to understand that crying is a normal and essential part of childhood. I even allow my 8-month-old to cry a bit when it’s bedtime—something I would never have considered with my first child.
3. I Accept Conflict
Setting boundaries was a challenge for me with my firstborn; I didn’t want to crush his spirit. Now, I recognize that establishing limits is crucial for both their safety and my sanity. Regular disagreements show I’m doing my job right.
4. I Don’t Sweat Perfection
Initially, I was adamant about providing my children with only the healthiest foods, stressing over every detail. Now, I prioritize a balanced lifestyle without being extreme. I apply sunscreen and bug spray when needed and have relaxed my standards.
5. I Give Them Space
I used to constantly engage and entertain my baby. Now, I allow my children the freedom to explore their own interests and learn to entertain themselves.
6. I Trust Others More
With my first child, I was hesitant to let anyone hold him due to worries about germs and safety. Now, I willingly hand my baby to anyone who offers help. I’ve learned to take breaks and even utilize childcare options at gyms, something I couldn’t have imagined doing before.
As I acknowledged my growth as a mother, we hit a patch of stop-and-go traffic, and the boys’ screams intensified. Just as doubts began to creep in, I remembered the stash of crackers in the center console. It reminded me that I wouldn’t have thought to keep snacks on hand if I weren’t now a more experienced mom. Armed with those crackers, I felt my confidence return. We made it home with far less tension than I would have expected, and I found myself laughing amidst the chaos. Even when it sounded like they were calling for an exorcist, I knew everything would be alright.
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Summary:
As a seasoned mom, my approach to parenting has evolved significantly. I’ve learned to react with calmness, embrace normal childhood behaviors like crying, establish necessary boundaries, prioritize a balanced lifestyle, give my children space to grow, and trust others more readily. This transformation has allowed me to navigate the challenges of motherhood with a newfound sense of humor and ease.