Dear sweet Emily,
I’ve noticed that you’ve taken to naming inanimate objects “Lipstick” on two occasions recently. Let’s put a stop to that, shall we? You’re just 4 years old, and while you may call that little bear Chapstick, I draw the line at the Lipstick trend. And as a gentle reminder, my Lancôme makeup brushes are not toys for your imaginative play while I prepare dinner.
Your moment to explore lipstick will arrive, but in the meantime, I’d like to share some advice with you:
Being Unique Is a Gift
As Halloween approached last October, I felt a bit smug watching your classmates, five of whom chose to dress as Elsa. You had your heart set on being Peter Pan, which I had already bought for you. While I questioned the film’s outdated stereotypes, I thought the character’s charm and creativity would be a good fit for you. After all, you’re only 4, so I felt safe with you taking on a character that, while irresponsible, embodies creativity.
But on the day itself, you woke up determined to be Headband Girl. My initial confusion turned into admiration as I realized how resolute you were. You layered headbands atop your head, donned a colorful cape, and proudly marched off to school. As you explained your rope for rescuing people from lakes, it struck me that you could create your own hero, and that hero could simply be you. I couldn’t help but feel a bit emotional, realizing you might just be the more progressive one.
However, a few days later, I found you and a friend in tears because you both wanted to be Elsa. This brings me to my next point.
There’s Room for Everyone
I know it may sound like I’m being contradictory, but it’s essential to understand that every woman has the capacity to be strong and magical. Just because you want to be Elsa doesn’t mean someone else can’t too. The world is vast and can accommodate many Elsas. You’ll soon learn that societal pressures may attempt to stifle your strength, but don’t let that shape your destiny. Share your power and create bonds with other women. It’s time for the world to witness that kind of unity among strong women.
Stay True to Yourself
Speaking of fictional characters, I understand your fascination with Ariel. Mermaids and their enchanting worlds are undeniably captivating. Ariel’s voice can draw anyone in, and I recognize why you admire her. Your teachers encourage you to sing, and the idea of being a singing mermaid must feel magical.
Yet, here’s what I want you to know: You don’t have to sacrifice your uniqueness to find your version of a happy ending. It’s vital to hold onto your identity, just like Ariel should keep her mermaid tail. Compromise may sometimes be necessary, but never at the expense of who you are. Your individuality is your magic, and it’s crucial to maintain that sparkle.
On Beauty
Now, back to my original point about Lipstick. You’ve been applying that shiny gloss and asking, “Do I look beautiful?” This habit is something I worry about. I want you to know that you are always beautiful, not because of makeup, but because of the light within you. That inner glow is what truly shines; it’s the magic that captivates everyone around you.
Keep moving forward, my dear Emily.
With all my love,
Momma