“You will find yourself missing your pregnant belly once it’s no longer there,” is a phrase I’ve encountered from numerous well-meaning individuals lately. Typically, this is followed by the notion that “you’ll long for the comfort of having your baby close to you at all times.” As I approach the conclusion of my pregnancy, this sentiment initially seems absurd. I’m eagerly anticipating the moment I can cradle my little one in my arms, but as I reflect on it more, I can see their point.
The Journey of Pregnancy
Pregnancy is truly a remarkable journey. It’s astonishing to think that you can nurture and grow a life within yourself. Each pregnancy may share similarities, yet they are all distinct in their own right. Every sensation and experience is unique to the mother and her child. Even a woman’s subsequent pregnancies will be felt differently. There’s an unbreakable bond formed with your baby even before they make their entrance into the world. This connection is something I can share with those around me.
My partner, Mark, often places his hands on my belly, feeling the little kicks and movements while he talks to our baby. However, his experience cannot compare to mine. He doesn’t feel the same rhythms or know the baby’s active times as intimately as I do. I recognize when our child is awake or asleep, and there are moments when I can poke my belly, awaiting a familiar kick in response—our little secret communication. I realize this is our cherished way of bonding before his arrival. I can keep him safe within this nurturing space, shielding him from life’s uncertainties. A few gentle kicks feel like he’s acknowledging my presence, reassuring me that he’s doing well.
Anticipating Change
I can’t predict when I might start to miss this feeling—the assurance of keeping my son safe and sound. Perhaps it will happen right away as I dive into the challenges of new motherhood. During those moments when he cries endlessly, refuses to eat, or struggles to sleep, I might wish he were back inside me, where I know he’s getting all the nourishment he needs. In the womb, I had a sense of control, easily lulling him to sleep and keeping him safe from the world.
Alternatively, it may not hit me immediately. Maybe it will be when he’s older, navigating friendships, experiencing hurt feelings, or facing rejection. In those instances, I might long for the days when I could shield him from loneliness and disappointment—times when he only knew acceptance and understanding.
Facing the Realities of Life
As he grows and encounters the harsher realities of life, such as injustice or cruelty, I might yearn to bring him back to that safe space where he was sheltered from negativity. Despite my efforts to instill kindness and compassion, the weight of the world can feel overwhelming. I may wish to protect him from witnessing anything that could shatter his innocence.
I could find myself missing my pregnant belly even later on, perhaps during his teenage years when he grapples with identity and peer pressure. When he seeks independence and may unintentionally push me away, that is when I might feel the loss of our once unbreakable bond. I will likely reminisce about the time when it was just the two of us, when I understood his every need and desire, wrapped up in our little bubble.
Embracing the Present
The truth is, I may miss my pregnant belly during many of these moments and more. Even as I count down the days until his arrival, I am acutely aware that everything will transform immediately. While some aspects of motherhood will be profoundly rewarding, I know I will also crave the simplicity of this present moment—where I can feel his little kicks and ensure his safety from sickness and uncertainty.
For now, I will cherish this feeling of security a little longer. I understand I will miss the comfort of knowing he’s safe with me. So, I’ll embrace my belly for what it signifies a little while longer. I’ll treasure his little kicks as a reminder that we are both okay.
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Summary
As I near the end of my pregnancy, I reflect on the bond formed with my unborn child and the unique connection that comes with carrying them. While I eagerly await their arrival, I also recognize the inevitability of change and the emotions tied to letting go of this protective phase. I anticipate that I will miss my pregnant belly for many reasons, as I navigate the complexities of motherhood, longing for the moments when my baby was safe within me.