Before becoming a mother, I never really craved anything deeply. Sure, as a child, I had fleeting desires—wanting a new Barbie, wishing for more TV time, or hoping to skip school. I toyed with dreams of being a flight attendant or an Egyptologist, but those were just whims of childhood curiosity. I never had a strong aspiration for a particular career or lifestyle; I gravitated towards the easy and the uncontroversial.
I often drove my family mad with my nonchalant attitudes—expressing that things like my college choice, my major, or even the color of wedding napkins didn’t really matter. To me, adopting this relaxed demeanor made me appear adaptable and cool. However, this indifference also meant I often let life and those around me dictate my path. I made moves, left graduate school, and purchased cars and homes with a passivity that, although seemingly carefree, left me feeling powerless.
Then came motherhood. To be honest, my decision to have a child initially felt rather “meh.” It seemed like the next logical step rather than a burning desire. However, once my baby arrived, a transformation occurred. Suddenly, I felt empowered, as if I had awakened from a long slumber. Simple tasks like soothing a newborn or multitasking became sources of pride. I discovered newfound capabilities, like explaining complex concepts to my toddler or constructing elaborate Lego structures without needing instructions.
With this surge of confidence, I realized I had aspirations. Time became precious, and I finally felt ready to pursue what I truly wanted.
My Aspirations
First and foremost, I want to be an exceptional mother. I aim to cherish the small victories and navigate the challenges of parenting. I yearn for the tantrums, the swimming lessons, the first homework assignments, and the joy of watching my child grow. I want to immerse myself in all of it.
Beyond motherhood, I crave a fulfilling career. Until now, my jobs were just that—jobs. Now, I aspire to excel in my work, even if it doesn’t involve uncovering ancient tombs or finding cures for diseases. I want to embrace new opportunities and make my work meaningful not just for myself but also for my child.
I also seek a hobby and the time to indulge in it. Since my son’s birth, I’ve taken my writing more seriously; it feels vital to express my thoughts and ideas. I want my son to see me take risks and voice my opinions, leading by example.
Furthermore, I desire friendships that inspire me and time to enjoy them. I want to travel, savor adventures that are exhilarating, and perhaps even a bit reckless. I long for late nights filled with laughter, surrounded by new faces in unfamiliar places, as well as moments of serene solitude. I want to experience the full spectrum of life—joy, sorrow, and everything in-between.
It sounds overwhelming at times; after all, I also crave a simple nap and a few moments alone. But motherhood has ignited a sense of urgency within me. I’m acutely aware of time slipping away—not only as my son grows each day but also as I strive to shape the woman he knows. I want to be more than just someone who makes his favorite meals; I want him to see that life is about pursuing what matters.
Now, things truly matter because my role as a parent adds a new dimension to my choices. In my younger years, I felt little pull in any direction, but now, my child’s presence serves as a benchmark for everything else. For something to divert my attention from him, it must hold significant value.
I don’t possess grand dreams of “having it all.” I recognize that some of my desires may remain unfulfilled. Yet, having these aspirations is crucial. The difficult decisions, the balancing acts, and the occasional sacrifices remind me that I am attentive to what truly matters.
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Summary
Becoming a mother has awakened a sense of purpose and desire in me that I never had before. I now seek to be a great parent while also pursuing a fulfilling career, hobbies, meaningful friendships, and thrilling experiences. Motherhood has instilled in me a sense of urgency and focus, reminding me of what truly matters in life.