As someone who loves planning, I often set ambitious goals for myself, especially around the New Year. However, since becoming a mother, I’ve realized how challenging it is to create resolutions that are both realistic and achievable. Kids have a knack for dismantling even the best-laid plans.
Looking back at a list I created when my first child was nearly one, I see goals like “Incorporate more whole foods into our meals” and “Organize the baby’s toys twice daily.” Let’s just say those didn’t pan out as I had hoped. My once-adorable infant soon became a toddler who had zero interest in anything but white bread, and once he started walking, the toy mess multiplied exponentially.
Now, as a more seasoned and practical mom, I’ve learned to set resolutions that are easier to maintain. Ultimately, the happiness of my family takes precedence over having a perfectly tidy home or an immaculate diet. Here are five achievable resolutions I believe I can uphold—ones that my kids will certainly appreciate too:
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Embrace Laughter
I’ve come to understand that humor is essential for surviving parenthood. Sure, some situations require seriousness, but most of the time, laughter is the best remedy. My 4-year-old recently decided to strip down to his diaper as soon as we got home. It’s infuriating, but also hilariously absurd. Just yesterday, he threw his clothes on Grandma’s dining room table as soon as we walked in! Laughter truly helps ease the chaos. -
Increase Affection
We often hear, “Hug your kids,” and while that sounds simple, it’s easy to overlook in daily life. Recently, I noticed my 9-year-old becoming a bit distant. Instead of shouting from the other room, I made a point to physically connect with him—sitting beside him and giving him a hug while talking. This simple act has significantly improved our connection, reminding me that all children, even the older ones, need that physical touch. -
Stop Judging Myself
The “mommy wars” often bring judgment from others, but I find that I’m often my own worst critic. I recently noticed I hadn’t showered in days and instead of laughing it off, I spiraled into negative self-talk. Why not just acknowledge that life gets hectic and give myself a break? We all need to be kinder to ourselves and recognize that we’re doing our very best. -
Lower Expectations and Welcome the Chaos
I’ve accepted that Mondays are typically rough in our household. Instead of expecting everyone to be on their best behavior, I’ve lowered my expectations. I don’t plan elaborate meals or expect perfect parenting. Once I adjusted my mindset, Mondays became more manageable. Parenting often revolves around our expectations; if we let go of them, we can navigate the chaos much more easily. -
Prioritize Self-Care
My life revolves around my kids, which is natural, but I’ve realized that neglecting myself isn’t sustainable. It’s crucial to carve out time for activities that rejuvenate me. For instance, I aim to go for a run a few times a week—no kids, just me and my music. I don’t expect to accomplish this every day, but aiming for three runs weekly is a solid goal, even if it means asking my partner to handle dinner occasionally.
Life as a parent is rarely perfect, but these resolutions are practical enough that I can stick to them. And who knows, maybe I will manage to shower more than once a week too!
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