Let me start by saying that as a mother of four, I feel empowered to speak on this topic. I’ve been on a bit of a #dontjudge journey lately, and I believe we could all use a healthy dose of it. Here’s the crux of my argument:
Don’t evaluate someone else’s journey based on your own experiences.
This is a mantra worth embracing. It’s crucial to remember that every childbirth experience is unique. As my friends embark on the adventure of bringing new life into the world, I feel a sense of protectiveness over their feelings and their bodies. These are not open topics for public scrutiny.
Let’s take a moment to celebrate rather than critique.
Exhibit A: Weight Gain
Let’s just avoid the topic altogether. Some women gain the “perfect” amount of weight, as dictated by pregnancy guidelines, and they deserve admiration for their accomplishments. Others may gain more or less due to factors beyond their control—genetics, morning sickness, you name it. This is not something to judge; it’s simply part of the journey. Remember, growing a person is no easy feat, and every woman’s experience is valid.
Exhibit B: Birth Methods
Again, I reiterate: Don’t judge another’s birthing experience based on your own. Each labor is distinct, and your story is not theirs. My own four deliveries could be named something like “Blissfully Naive” or “The Great Head Challenge.” And C-sections? They might be debated, but they can also save lives. I admire the strength of those who endure long labors only to end up needing a C-section, or those who face complications like ineffective anesthesia.
Let’s empower mothers by celebrating their individual stories, no matter how they choose to give birth, because each tale is uniquely beautiful.
Exhibit C: Birth Locations
One of the funniest observations comes from comedian Greg. He jokes about how people assume home births are risky. The truth is, every mother should choose the setting that makes her feel the safest and most comfortable—whether that’s at home, in a hospital, or at a birthing center. If you’re not the one in labor, perhaps it’s best to keep your opinions to yourself.
Moreover, let’s not forget about the women who choose not to have children, or those who face challenges like infertility or postpartum depression. Their stories deserve respect and understanding.
In the end, let’s support each other and validate every journey. A simple nod can go a long way.
Remember this:
Don’t judge another’s experience.
Now go forth and uplift one another.
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