Recently, as I was leaving a professional gathering, a young girl approached me with a box of handmade jewelry. She explained that she was selling her beaded creations to help her mom cover a phone bill. Feeling generous and in a good mood, I picked a bracelet that caught my eye and handed her some cash, telling her to keep the change.
The blue, knotted yarn bracelet has been a constant on my wrist ever since. It bears a single word: FREE. This bracelet serves as a daily reminder that I now live my life on my own terms. After years of being in a relationship, it symbolizes my journey toward breaking old habits and reshaping my thought processes. Seeing it each morning fills me with positivity.
While the process of divorce was challenging, and my life now as a working parent can be demanding, there are many advantages to being single. Here are 21 reasons why I embrace my independence:
- I set my own rules. In my marriage, I often deferred to my partner’s way of handling household tasks. Now, I reclaim my autonomy and make every decision myself.
- I can enjoy my favorite foods whenever I want. While my ex introduced me to new cuisines, I often had to sacrifice the dishes I loved. Now, indulging in treats like Ben & Jerry’s at midnight is guilt-free.
- I manage my finances. I no longer worry about impulsive spending at places like Costco. I am in control of my budget and expenses, ensuring my hard-earned money is spent wisely.
- No more sleepless nights waiting for him. I occasionally miss adult interactions, but I no longer feel the frustration of being left in the dark about someone’s whereabouts.
- I don’t clean up after anyone else. Balancing full-time work and parenting is tough enough without additional chaos. I love my home organized and clutter-free, even if I miss his socks.
- I make my own plans. My free time is limited, but it’s mine alone. No need to accommodate his schedule or family obligations.
- I no longer seek approval. I used to strive to please my ex but often fell short. Now, I recognize my worth, and my own opinion is what matters.
- I pick my own wardrobe. I choose clothes that reflect my style, even if my budget is tight.
- I’m free from criticism. I take responsibility for my mistakes, but I no longer have someone pointing out my flaws.
- I have more space! My closet, dresser, and bed are all mine. I appreciate the solitude of sleeping alone most nights.
- The TV is under my control. After the kids are asleep, I can watch whatever I like.
- Holidays are stress-free. If the kids are with me, we celebrate with my family. If they’re with him, I get a break from holiday chaos.
- I go at my own pace. I value punctuality and can now follow my schedule without waiting on anyone else.
- I can explore new relationships. The possibilities for romance seem endless. I can flirt and date, though I’m not sure if I’ll ever marry again.
- I dictate my bedtime. I relish the freedom to crash whenever I want, without distractions from a partner.
- I can unwind. Being unattached means less stress in my life.
- My opinions matter. The absence of constant arguments has created a more peaceful atmosphere.
- I can pursue my passions. I am free to write, paint, and dream big. I believe in myself again.
- No more making excuses. We’re no longer a team; I can speak freely about my experiences without defending someone else’s actions.
- I take the wheel. Instead of being a nervous passenger, I’m now the one driving my own journey.
- I shape my own future. I have no regrets about my past. My children are my world, and I look forward to what lies ahead.
For far too long, I compromised my identity. Now, as a divorced woman, I feel empowered and free—a sentiment I’m reminded of every time I glance at my bracelet.
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Summary
Embracing independence after divorce can be liberating. With newfound freedom, you can make your own decisions, enjoy personal space, and focus on your passions. This journey allows you to rediscover yourself, manage your life, and look forward to the future without the weight of compromising your identity.