Updated: Feb. 20, 2016
Originally Published: Oct. 27, 2015
I found myself utterly helpless when it came to soothing my newborn. The cries felt relentless, and every attempt to comfort him seemed in vain. I struggled to bring him peace, and as the nights dragged on, I found myself spiraling into self-blame. The more I blamed myself, the heavier the burden became. Although I was there for him around the clock, I felt as though I wasn’t doing enough. I would rather endure his wails than hand him over to my partner until I reached my breaking point.
Then, the pacifier met the wall.
I’ve never had issues with anger before, so this was a clear signal that something had to change. Shortly after that incident, I took my sweet baby boy to the pediatrician, who diagnosed him with colic. He reassured me that it wasn’t my fault and that we would just have to endure the daily symphony of cries.
While I wish I could say that this diagnosis was a game-changer for me as a new mother, the reality is that it was the passage of time—and the arrival of my second son—that truly provided solace. My firstborn was a challenge, to say the least. His first year was a crash course in parenting; we learned far more from him than he did from us. Yet, on the other side of that tumultuous period, we now see a remarkable young boy. He is sensitive, compassionate, independent, energetic, determined, funny, and intelligent—qualities that made him a tough baby. However, once he began to walk and communicate, he transformed. He learned how to express his needs and desires clearly.
The birth of my second son marked another significant shift for me. I was anxious about facing a similar ordeal, though I knew we would survive it. To my relief, my second son came into the world with a smile that hasn’t faded since. True, he’s a handful in his own way—always seeking attention and full of energy—but his vibrant personality beautifully balances his brother’s more serious demeanor.
So, let me share this important lesson: the amount your baby cries is not a reflection of your worth as a mother. Almost five years later, I can confidently say that what truly matters is how a mother navigates the challenges presented to her. A crying baby doesn’t signify a failure; instead, it highlights the strength, patience, and love inherent in motherhood. There is nothing quite as exhausting as walking the halls with a screaming infant at 3 a.m., but we endure these moments because we are incredible moms.
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