Parenting
Although more than two decades have passed since I was 16, those memories are still vivid. I often find myself wishing I could have a conversation with my younger self. If I could bridge the gap between my 16-year-old self and the person I am today at 36, we could potentially save each other from unnecessary heartache. Over the years, I have gathered valuable insights that I wish I had known back then. If I could speak to my 1995 self, I would say:
First and foremost, trust your instincts. You know yourself far better than others give you credit for. People often say, “Oh, you’ll change your mind,” but here’s the reality: your understanding of who you are surpasses that of many adults. In fact, I’m only just returning to the essence of who I was at 16. Adults may dismiss your feelings, but remember, they may simply be projecting their own uncertainties.
Secondly, your parents genuinely want what’s best for you. That boyfriend of yours? They’re concerned he might distract you from your dreams. And when they hesitate to let you fly solo to Chicago? They are just worried about your safety. As you grow older and perhaps become a parent yourself, you’ll gain empathy for their worries.
Your family will always be your anchor, even if you sometimes distance yourself. Home life may feel challenging now, but one day you’ll understand the depth of your parents’ love as you watch them care for your child. You’ll realize they are human, too, navigating their own struggles.
You will always have at least one true friend. The departure of your best friend for a study abroad program feels devastating right now, but know this: life will bless you with other incredible women who will become your soul sisters. And that friend who is leaving? There’s a strong chance you’ll still be connecting over tea 20 years later.
Learn the art of letting go. Some people will enter your life, and you may feel compelled to hold onto them. Resist that urge. Those who truly care about you will remain, while others may drift away for a reason. Embrace this truth and focus on the love surrounding you instead of fixating on those who don’t reciprocate.
Finally, never abandon your dreams. You aspire to be a writer and an artist, and you possess genuine talent in those areas. Recently, a story you submitted to your creative writing teacher didn’t receive the enthusiastic feedback you hoped for, but don’t let that deter you. There will always be those more skilled than you, but your passions are integral to your identity. Keep pursuing them. One day, you’ll inspire young writers just like yourself, and eventually, you’ll fulfill your dream of becoming a published author.
These are just a few of the lessons I wish I could impart to my younger self. In 1995, I didn’t grasp these truths, and while many tried to share similar wisdom, I was reluctant to listen. Life unfolds in its own time, and as I’ve matured, I’ve learned the importance of reflecting on past experiences. We all can learn from the essence of our 16-year-old selves, whether they were well-adjusted or not. Embracing that part of us can lead to greater understanding and patience, especially with the teenagers we encounter today.
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In summary, reflecting on the past can provide invaluable lessons for the present. Embracing our younger selves not only fosters personal growth but also encourages greater understanding of those navigating their teenage years.