Moms, it’s time to elevate our friendship game. Our status as besties shouldn’t take a backseat just because we have kids. Sure, our little ones can sometimes be a valid reason to skip out on plans, but we can do better at balancing motherhood and friendships.
Last week, I shared tips for childfree friends on staying connected with their mommy pals. Today, I’m focusing on how we, as mothers, can nurture our bonds with those who don’t have children. Life is hectic, and yes, we often feel like our time is stretched thin, but that doesn’t mean we should let our friendships fade into the background.
Remember, we were once childfree ourselves! While it might be hard to recall those carefree days, it’s essential to honor that part of our lives and maintain connections with friends who are still living that reality. So here are five strategies for moms to keep their friendships with childfree besties thriving.
1. Be Selective with Kid Photos
While it’s natural to want to share every adorable moment of your child’s life, your friend doesn’t need a constant stream of updates. Limit your photo sharing to the big milestones—like their first steps or words—and save the daily updates for social media. And whatever you do, please refrain from sending potty-related pictures! In return, make sure to show interest in her life, like asking for pictures of her pets.
2. Say “Yes” to Outings
When your childfree friend invites you out, try to accept whenever possible. Yes, getting a babysitter and finding the energy to go out can feel daunting, especially after a long week of juggling responsibilities. However, a night out can do wonders for your spirit. Make an effort to put on some makeup and enjoy a meal or drink together—your friendship deserves it.
3. Don’t Let Every Kid Crisis Derail Plans
We all know that kids can throw a wrench in our plans, but try not to cancel simply because you’re feeling overwhelmed. Of course, emergencies happen, but if you’re just feeling a bit off, it’s okay to admit it and reschedule. Just communicate openly and apologize for any inconvenience.
4. Schedule Regular Phone Chats
If meeting in person isn’t always an option, set aside dedicated time for phone calls. Texting is great, but it’s not a substitute for a good chat. Find a quiet time, perhaps when the kids are napping or occupied, and catch up without interruptions. This helps keep the connection strong even when life gets hectic.
5. Practice Empathy and Understanding
We all remember a time when we had more freedom to socialize. Acknowledge that your childfree friends may have more flexibility, and that’s okay. Make an effort to maintain quality interactions, even if they’re less frequent. Consider establishing a regular date for phone calls or meet-ups to keep the friendship alive. Use tools like video calls for a more personal touch.
Moms, just because we are busy doesn’t mean we can neglect our friendships. Our best friends can be our emotional support systems when the going gets tough. By making an effort to stay connected, we can ensure that our bonds remain strong, even amidst the chaos of motherhood.
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Summary:
Moms can maintain meaningful friendships with their childfree friends by being selective with updates, accepting invitations to social outings, avoiding cancellations whenever possible, scheduling regular phone conversations, and practicing empathy. These small efforts can go a long way in keeping those vital connections strong despite the busy lives we lead.