Let’s be honest: there are days when my partner and I barely exchange a word. With two kids, a full-time job, a side gig, and minimal assistance with childcare or household chores, we’re certainly busy. Our life is rich in joy—our two boys bring us more happiness than we ever anticipated. However, the relentless demands of parenting often leave little room for personal time or for each other.
When my wailing newborn was placed into my arms eight years ago, I was overwhelmed by the challenges of motherhood and doubted that anything from my pre-parenting life could remain the same. Yet, after a few years of navigating this parenting journey, I can confidently say that despite the exhausting nature of parenthood, it has not strained our marriage. In fact, it has made it stronger.
Of course, it’s not without its flaws. I have my own grievances about my partner (currently, I’m on a mission to get him to spend less time on his phone, take out the trash unprompted, and learn to close the shower curtain properly to avoid soggy toilet paper). And I’m sure he has his own list of things he wishes I would change, mostly regarding my tendency to nag!
Nonetheless, when I reflect on how well our relationship has withstood the trials of parenthood, I attribute much of it to our excellent co-parenting dynamic. My partner is deeply engaged with our kids, connecting with them in meaningful ways. Whenever he’s home, he goes above and beyond to be there for them, day or night. His dedication as a father not only benefits our children but also significantly enriches my life.
Here’s a little secret: his exceptional parenting skills make my heart flutter—they’re downright attractive! (Yes, our intimacy is thriving amidst the chaos of parenthood.)
I know many fathers out there are just as dedicated. While being a strong parenting partnership is crucial, there are also dads who struggle to meet the emotional and practical needs of their families. I count my blessings daily and feel fortunate to have my partner by my side.
So, to my husband and all the phenomenal fathers out there:
- Thank you for getting up with the kids on weekends so I can catch a few extra Z’s. Just this morning, I woke up to discover the living room transformed into a superhero battleground; you were playing with our son, juggling Superman in one hand and a cold cup of coffee in the other. My heart skipped a beat.
- Thank you for those late nights spent caring for our sick children—your willingness to handle the messy laundry without a word of complaint is admirable (unlike me, who would have complained a lot!).
- Thank you for your patience, walking our fussy babies up and down the hall. Your “daddy walk” worked wonders in calming them down during those trying evenings.
- Thank you for driving the kids to birthday parties, swim lessons, and doctor visits. I appreciate you taking on those errands that I’d rather avoid.
- Thank you for waking up at dawn to go to work, only to return home early to make the most of our time together before bedtime.
- Thank you for never batting an eye when you walk in after a long day and I present you with a couple of screaming kids, exclaiming, “I can’t handle this!”
- Thank you for remembering the little things, like how our youngest prefers his pizza cut (in rectangles!) and how our older son likes to be tucked in just so.
- And thank you right now for taking the kids to the park, allowing me this opportunity to express my appreciation for you.
It’s important to acknowledge that dads sometimes receive unwarranted criticism. I recognize that many fathers are absent or disengaged, but we must also celebrate those who actively participate in their children’s lives. These dads are shaping a positive example of masculinity for their kids and offering their partners much-needed moments of respite.
You are helping your partner rediscover her identity beyond “Mommy,” and you are reminding her why she fell in love with you in the first place.
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Summary:
This heartfelt tribute acknowledges the incredible efforts of fathers who actively engage in parenting. It highlights the importance of partnership in marriage, celebrating those dads who contribute significantly to their families. By recognizing their roles, we reinforce the positive impact they have on their children and partners alike.