I can’t pinpoint the exact moment it occurred, but it definitely did. Was it over the summer? Perhaps it started last fall? Did it happen in a sudden burst, akin to the Big Bang, marked by a significant milestone I somehow overlooked? Or was it a slow evolution, imperceptible day by day, until one morning—BAM!—the truth became clear and unavoidable?
Regardless of when or how it unfolded, here we are, deep in the in-between years.
There were times when I truly doubted we’d reach this stage. I feared we would be trapped in an endless loop of baby, toddler, and preschool phases. I was convinced that parenting would be a relentless cycle of diaper changes, nap times, and time-outs.
Now, both of my kids are in school—one in kindergarten and the other in third grade—and they no longer fit neatly into the typical phases of childhood. We’ve long since moved past the chaotic newborn and toddler years. While they occasionally display the antics of so-called “threenagers,” those moments are becoming increasingly rare. We still have a few years to navigate before the whirlwind of adolescence arrives, and even longer before they fly the nest into young adulthood. My boys are in that peculiar space where they’re both little and big at the same time. They are truly in-between.
The in-between years signify that they are mature enough to ask about subjects like sex, yet they still hold onto the magic of Santa Claus. We no longer adhere to strict nap or bedtime routines, yet they still cherish their tuck-ins and sleep with their beloved blankets. Instead of t-ball, we’ve transitioned to kid-pitch baseball, although it’s common to see at least one little player in tears on the bench. Our summer included sleepovers and daring dives off the high board, alongside parades and kiddie pools. We’ve enjoyed movies like “The Hobbit” and “Guardians of the Galaxy,” as well as “Mickey Mouse Clubhouse” and “Gravity Falls.” They can shower independently, but bathing remains an every-other-day ritual, as they haven’t yet succumbed to the teenage waves of hormones and body odor.
There’s something idyllic about the in-between years, where the challenges of parenting harmonize with the innocent joys of childhood. Our children require us in a less desperate manner, wanting our presence in a calmer, more balanced way. It’s no wonder these years are often referred to as the sweet spot.
However, alongside the sweetness of these years, there’s an unsettling aspect. With each new step toward independence, my children stretch their wings further, making me acutely aware that the threads of their childhood are slowly unraveling. I can’t ignore the looming chaos of the future. The in-between years are a complex blend of relief, anxiety, excitement, fear, satisfaction, and confusion.
These years aren’t solely transitional for my children; they mark a shift for me as well. For the past nine years, I’ve been a stay-at-home mom, with my children’s schedules shaping my own. But now that my youngest is in kindergarten, I feel the vast world opening up—a liberating yet daunting reality that is both thrilling and overwhelming.
Some days, navigating these new waters feels like walking on burning sand. I tread lightly, sometimes making hasty choices about my next steps, anxious that a fleeting moment might slip away if I’m not vigilant. Other days, I feel as if I’m sinking into thick, heavy quicksand, grappling with the confusion brought on by shifting roles and new responsibilities.
Most days, however, feel like a stroll along a beach with wet, firm sand beneath my feet. The tide may be coming in or going out; I can’t really tell. Soon enough, the landscape will shift dramatically, and I’ll need to adapt. But for now, the shoreline is soft, cool, and comforting.
Today, I’m choosing to focus on the present. For now, the in-between years are precisely where I want to be.
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Summary
The in-between years of parenting are a unique blend of childhood innocence and the dawning of independence, creating a bittersweet experience for both children and parents. These years offer a chance to appreciate the present while navigating the complexities of growing up.