As a mom of one, I’ve encountered my fair share of comments that make me squirm. Here are eight remarks that really hit home:
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You must have so much free time!
Sure, it sounds dreamy to think I’m lounging around, binge-watching shows and snacking on Chicago Mix from Costco. But let’s be real: raising one child involves the same level of effort as managing multiple kids. I’m just as busy with chores, laundry, and cooking, all while spending quality time with my little one like any other mom.
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Isn’t having just one child a bit selfish?
Choosing not to have another child doesn’t make me selfish. If I were to have another just for the sake of it, would that really be better? I devote my days to nurturing my child with love and care. I see that as a positive, not a selfish act.
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Your poor child must feel lonely.
Do siblings always provide the antidote to loneliness? I believe my child will form friendships that will enrich her life as she grows. Loneliness isn’t exclusive to only children.
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Trust me, having more kids is way better.
I’m glad you’re fulfilled with your large family, but I find complete satisfaction in my choice to have one child. Just because you believe more is better doesn’t mean I feel the same way.
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She’ll grow up spoiled and entitled.
As parents, we all have our worries. But is there solid research backing the claim that only children are destined to be spoiled? I worry about raising her well, just like any other parent.
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Don’t you want a boy (or a girl)?
I’m grateful for my healthy, vibrant child, and her gender doesn’t dictate our happiness. Families come in all forms, and I cherish mine, regardless of its size or composition.
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What will happen when you’re gone?
It’s painful to think about my death and its impact on my child. Even if I had another child, who’s to say they would bond? Many siblings grow apart. I hope my daughter will have a strong support system when that day comes, as losing a parent is tough—no matter how many siblings you have.
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You really should have another; she’s too cute to be an only child.
Yes, she’s fantastic—brilliant, funny, and kind. Why mess with perfection? Cuteness isn’t a solid reason to have more kids.
I’m not ruling out the possibility of having another child, but for now, we are truly happy as a family of three. With all the challenges kids face, being an only child is likely the least of my daughter’s worries. Every parent has a shot at success or failure, and I don’t believe that having a sibling will change those odds.
Let’s unite as mothers and support each other’s choices. From a mom of one, I appreciate your understanding.
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Summary:
This article outlines eight common comments that often unsettle moms of only children. From misconceptions about loneliness to judgments about selfishness, these remarks highlight the unique challenges and joys of parenting an only child. Ultimately, every family structure is valid, and it’s essential to support one another in our individual choices.