Recently, a friend of mine, Sarah, shared a delightful experience from a date night she had with her husband. They enjoyed cocktails at a rooftop restaurant while watching the sunset, then rented bikes and rode along the river to indulge in dinner at another spot. “It was such a blast,” she told me, “we haven’t tried anything new like that in years.”
Her story made me reflect on how much fun I actually have with my own husband, Mark. Our relationship has taken on a business-like quality, where we each handle our responsibilities to keep our household running smoothly. Sure, the kids are thriving, the rent is paid, and life is generally good. Yet, the joy and spontaneity we once shared before having children seems to have faded away.
Every moment we spend together feels like a luxury we can’t afford, as it takes time away from our boys, and we often carry the guilt of leaving them behind. Additionally, there’s the financial aspect to consider. But perhaps the biggest barrier is the endless list of tasks that always seem more urgent than simply having fun: scheduling flu shots, shopping for school supplies, or tackling tax preparations. It’s challenging to shift gears and enjoy each other’s company as we once did.
However, I’ve come to realize that rekindling our fun is crucial—not just for our relationship, but also for our children. When we select a partner, we seek shared values, humor, and intelligence, which are essential elements of any strong bond. Yet, fun acts as the glue that holds everything together. Without it, a marriage can feel like a partnership in a corporate venture rather than a loving relationship.
Like Sarah, I’ve noticed that it’s been far too long since Mark and I engaged in any playful activities. We rarely share uncontrollable laughter or venture into new experiences. Parenthood often demands a conservative approach, as we constantly think ahead to the next meal, the next size of clothes, or the next pile of dishes needing attention. But if we don’t take the time to pause and remember what brought us together in the first place, we risk becoming mere coworkers in our little family enterprise. And that is not how life should be lived.
So, what’s next? While I could add “research fun activities” to my to-do list, I already know what we should do: enjoy cocktails at a rooftop bar, ride bikes, and savor a nice dinner together. Who knows, maybe we’ll even end the night with a poker game in Vegas!
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In summary, prioritizing fun in your marriage is essential. It not only strengthens your bond but also positively impacts your family dynamics. Taking time to enjoy each other’s company can transform your relationship from a business-like partnership into a joyful and fulfilling connection.