Talking about my experience with depression feels strange, almost like I’m wearing a mask. The word “depression” has always seemed alien to me, particularly when it comes to my own life. I don’t fit the typical mold of someone grappling with this condition, but that’s precisely why I feel a strong urge to share my story. There are undoubtedly others out there who, like me, recognize that something isn’t right but feel immobilized by the ability to “fake it.” I used to think that depression meant being bedridden, tears streaming down my face, completely unable to complete even the simplest tasks.
However, depression can manifest in many ways. You can appear functional on the outside—going through the motions of daily life—while internally feeling like a formless, lost entity.
My tumultuous journey began shortly before the passing of Robin Williams. I’ve always been prone to anxiety, but something shifted drastically last year. My nerves became raw, my thoughts spiraled uncontrollably, and I was trapped in a haze of anxiety that felt amplified. Instead of expressing my feelings, I retreated inward, hoping the storm would pass as quickly as it had arrived.
That’s when the lies began. “Depression lies.” You’ve probably heard that phrase before, right? It didn’t take long for my thoughts to plunge into a dark abyss filled with self-deprecating lies: “I’m annoying,” “I’m unlovable,” “I’m unfunny,” “I’m unattractive,” “I’m incompetent,” “I’m worthless,” “I don’t deserve happiness,” “People only pretend to like me,” “I despise myself.”
Even while grappling with these harsh realities, I also sensed a conflicting voice: you know something is wrong; these thoughts aren’t true. One would think that awareness would pull me back to reality, but instead, it only deepened my internal conflict, suggesting that my negative beliefs must hold some truth.
Eventually, a new lie infiltrated my mind: Life will always be this way. That thought terrified me.
To the outside world, I seemed fine. I fulfilled my responsibilities, got out of bed each morning, cared for my children, prepared meals, and met deadlines. I maintained relationships, paid bills—albeit sometimes late—and even smiled. I was a puppeteer, skillfully maneuvering through life in a way that appeared normal to anyone watching. But deep down, I was merely going through the motions, living a façade.
There were subtle signs, though. My family may have noticed when I stopped reaching out as often. Friends might recall the times we drifted apart. My partner might remember moments when he asked, “Are you okay? You seem off.” My kids even joked about me being “in a different world.”
During that year, I found myself fixated on kitchen knives while cooking, momentarily entranced by the idea that a single slice could serve as an escape from my unseen pain. Yet, I was aware enough to realize that such a choice would lead to more suffering, not release.
I had never contemplated suicide, nor had I experienced days of incapacitation. I hadn’t relied on medication. The absence of these clear indicators led me to believe that I couldn’t claim depression as my own. I felt as if I were in a constant state of confusion, unable to articulate my feelings.
Even though I hadn’t considered taking my own life, I understood how someone could reach that point, especially when consumed by the hopeless belief that life will remain forever bleak.
A few months ago, a friend in a Facebook group openly acknowledged her depression, eliciting a wave of support. This made me take note. Later, I read an article about depression and discovered I could relate to almost every symptom listed.
Then one day, in a private Facebook group, I confessed, “I’ve forgotten how to be happy.” Before I could hit delete, a fellow member urged me to seek help immediately. After several months and more admissions of my struggles, I finally reached out for professional support. I’m still in the early stages of this journey, learning about my anxiety, triggers, and past experiences that shaped it. It will take time to unravel everything, but I can genuinely say that I feel hopeful again, and that feeling is incredible. Therapy has been transformative, and while I still grapple with identifying as someone who experiences depression without medication, I remind myself that seeking help is vital.
This conversation matters, especially because Robin Williams’s tragic death struck a chord with me. I understand how someone can become so enveloped in despair that they believe life will never improve, leading to the thought that ending it might be a kindness.
That is a lie. If you resonate with my experiences, know that those negative thoughts you’re grappling with are not the truth. Reach out to someone. Life will not always be like this. There is hope and help available, but you must be willing to take that leap of faith.
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Summary
In this deeply personal narrative, the author reflects on her struggle with depression, highlighting the deceptive nature of its lies and how it can manifest in seemingly functional individuals. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging one’s feelings and seeking help, drawing inspiration from Robin Williams’s tragic story to encourage others to confront their own challenges.