Growing up, I always took my mother’s words at face value. In times of uncertainty, her honesty was my guiding light.
What’s your perspective on faith? Am I making the right choice in my partner? Should I pursue this career path? Will I love my second child as deeply as my first? These are the crucial moments when a mother’s truth is paramount, and I’m grateful for her unwavering honesty.
However, there were also moments when my mom told small fibs. It wasn’t until I became a parent myself that I realized how often these little white lies slipped from her lips. With a lively toddler and another baby on the way, I find myself sharing similar untruths. Here are five of those comforting lies I cherish.
1. You can handle this on your own.
When I was learning to ride my bike without training wheels or stepping into middle school for the first time, I could sense her hesitation. Her heart must’ve screamed “Stop!” as I took off on that bike or stood nervously outside the school. Yet, she encouraged me to embrace these challenges, instilling confidence in me even if she had her doubts.
2. They’re just mean because they’re intimidated by you.
The teenage years were fraught with heartache, especially dealing with bullying and rejection. After countless hours of tears, my mother would console me, saying, “That boy didn’t know how to handle your awesomeness,” or “Those girls envy your talent.” Whether true or not, her words made a world of difference in lifting my spirits.
3. You look stunning in that outfit.
Perhaps this wasn’t a fib; my mother might have genuinely thought I looked great in my eccentric outfits. Whether it was my Mudd jeans or the strapless wedding dress that I wore, she knew that what mattered most was my own perception of beauty. It was her way of reminding me to embrace my uniqueness.
4. I will always be proud of you.
In reality, there were moments where my choices may have disappointed her, such as my college struggles. However, she always reassured me that her pride in me would never waver. Her belief in me fostered my self-belief, and even during difficult times, she was my unwavering supporter.
5. I’ll always be here for you.
As I navigate adulthood, I understand that some promises can’t be kept. Yet, during my childhood, especially through family changes and insecurities, her words provided stability. Though she may not physically be there forever, the lessons and love she imparted continue to guide me.
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In summary, while some of the words shared by my mother may not have been entirely truthful, they provided comfort and encouragement during my formative years. These little white lies helped shape my confidence and understanding of love, something I aim to pass on to my own children.