Dear Daughters-in-Law,
It’s rare to receive correspondence that feels like it comes from another time, but perhaps that’s what karma truly embodies—an idea I often shared with you during your upbringing.
This isn’t a “I told you so” communication; it’s a heartfelt request for you to embrace empathy as you navigate the challenging waters of parenting my grandchildren. In my experience, the most effective parenting arises from understanding your children’s thoughts and feelings. Consider this blend of empathy and discipline as “Empapline.” It sounds a bit like a medicine, which might be fitting given the circumstances.
When you find your children engaging in the very behaviors that once tested your patience, I urge you to recall your own mindset during those moments. Remember how the sight of your rooms—transformed into chaotic messes—might have felt. Try to reflect on how I often reminded you: “Always leave a room better than you found it.” You likely remember the summer weeks when you would visit your father, and upon your return, I lamented how the house would become increasingly messy. I must have sounded like a constant nag.
When your little ones nod while you talk but then proceed to do the exact opposite, know that you’re part of a long lineage of mothers dealing with the same frustrations.
And when my beloved grandchildren seem uninterested upon hearing your exciting plans, it’s essential to understand their apparent boredom. They might not express enthusiasm, but deep down, they may just be looking for something different.
Please exercise patience when sibling squabbles erupt over seemingly trivial matters. You likely understand this is part of their growth and can manage it without losing your cool.
As you hear the familiar refrain of “I didn’t do it!” or “It wasn’t me!” remember that these are echoes of the experiences shared by mothers everywhere, including yours truly. When the teenage years bring half-truths and omissions, try to view them through a lens of understanding; they often aim to protect you from worry.
Don’t lose your calm when they protest the breakfast options available—eggs, bread, yogurt, and fruit—by claiming there’s “nothing to eat.” They are likely expressing that there’s nothing indulgent or pre-packaged for them to enjoy.
When they ask the same question repeatedly over a short period, remember that for children, the clock resets quickly when it comes to “no” answers.
Stay strong, my dear daughters-in-law. You have evolved into remarkable, capable mothers, and I couldn’t be prouder of you. Through the tough times, the sun will eventually shine again, and your children—my grandchildren—will flourish, just as you have.
Karma may pay a visit, but it will eventually move on, only to return with renewed energy. Keep the notion of Empapline close to your heart. When you see me smiling serenely, know that it’s a reflection of my love for you and my grandchildren and a bit of laughter at the beautiful chaos of it all.
With all my love,
Mom
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Summary
This heartfelt letter is a reminder to mothers of my grandchildren to practice empathy in parenting. It reflects on the challenges they face and encourages patience, understanding, and the importance of recognizing their children’s perspectives. The message conveys pride in their growth and reassures them that, despite difficulties, their children will thrive.