Are you that self-righteous know-it-all who scoffs at the parenting choices of others? If so, you’ve stumbled upon the right place. Welcome to your journey toward transformation.
I used to embody that very persona. I thought I had parenting all figured out and eagerly dished out my “wisdom” like candy on Halloween. The key difference? On Halloween, kids ask for treats, but when it came to my advice, no one was knocking on my door. That’s the hallmark of a Sanctimommy: unsolicited guidance. So, the first step toward becoming a more understanding and relatable person is to keep your opinions to yourself unless someone specifically seeks them out.
I know, easier said than done.
We’re all aware that you think you’ve mastered this “parenting thing.” You’ve told us countless times. You might believe you’re being a supportive friend by sharing your insights, but let’s be real: we’re not discussing rocket science here. There isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach when it comes to parenting. Just stop. There simply isn’t.
Do I really need to reiterate the “everyone is unique” mantra? Fine, here it goes: People are like snowflakes, each one distinct and special. We come in various shapes and sizes, with different desires and needs. The methods you employ with your flawless child may not translate to my parenting style. I get it; you think your way is right. However, the moment you recognize that your approach might not be suitable for everyone, that’s when you’ll shed your Sanctimommy exterior and become just another mom—imperfect, yet earnestly trying.
The arrival of my second child changed everything for me. He was the exact opposite of my first. In that moment, I understood there isn’t a universal method for every child. Of course, I still have strong opinions about parenting; keeping them to myself is a challenge. However, when it comes to sharing unsolicited advice online, I now know better than to engage.
So, take my advice: keep your hands to yourself. Resist the urge to type that comment. Live your ideal life with your perfect family, and perhaps consider penning all that wisdom in a memoir or a how-to book. Just imagine gifting it to your future daughter-in-law at her baby shower—she’ll surely appreciate the unsolicited guidance. Wouldn’t you have loved to receive a book like that from your partner’s mother? No?
Now, do you understand? Has the message sunk in?