When I hear other parents discuss their children’s food preferences, I can’t help but chuckle. Until you’ve met my little guy, you haven’t truly encountered pickiness. I recall a wedding we attended when he was just two years old. I had neglected to pack his food, still unaware of the vastness of his food aversions. I thought he would find something to eat there. I was so wrong. The breadsticks had too many sesame seeds, the pizza was too saucy and oddly shaped, and the strawberries weren’t “like the ones at home” (whatever that means).
In a moment that was baffling for everyone involved, the bride, who really shouldn’t have been preoccupied with this, asked the caterers to find something suitable for our son. “I have a perfect dish just for him!” the chef exclaimed with a twinkle in his eye. “Macaroni and cheese! Every kid loves that.”
Ah, but not my kid. He’s the one child in the universe who doesn’t appreciate mac and cheese. Or at least that’s how it felt in that moment. But I have come to realize he’s not alone. Some children only accept a mere three foods. My son, on the other hand, has a repertoire of about 14, including broccoli, provided it’s made just right—meaning at home and by yours truly.
It’s essential to recognize that picky eating exists on a spectrum. Almost every child exhibits some level of pickiness when it comes to food. I have yet to meet a child who doesn’t complicate mealtimes in one way or another. They all have unique standards about what they will eat, how it should be prepared, and when it should be served.
So, what does this mean? It suggests that what we often label as picky is simply a normal phase of childhood.
I understand how overwhelming it can be to prepare numerous meals for your children or to ensure every dish meets their exacting standards. I’m not advocating for you to constantly cater to their whims. I believe in establishing appropriate boundaries and providing structure around mealtimes. However, perhaps we should all take a step back, accept that our kids are just being kids, and recognize that mealtime challenges will persist for a while longer.
I’m not here to offer you advice; I find it unhelpful because you know your child best. You will discover your own balance of respecting their needs while also taking care of your own. Rather than searching for solutions, I’ve learned some insights about children and their eating habits that have helped me navigate this journey a bit more smoothly.
Insights on Picky Eating
- Kids have small stomachs—about the size of their little fists—so it’s entirely normal for them to eat in small portions. I’ve often found myself frustrated when my kids request food shortly after finishing a meal. But once I let go of the notion of perfect mealtimes and allowed them to graze as they prefer, my life became significantly easier.
- Picky eating can linger for a decade or more. Yes, you read that correctly. My now 8-year-old (the same one from the wedding anecdote) is still more selective than most kids his age, yet he’s starting to branch out. He sometimes tolerates slightly imperfect pizza and has even been known to pick off the “green things” (a.k.a., oregano and basil) before eating a slice. There’s hope, folks.
- Kids possess around 10,000 taste buds, while adults have about half that amount. When you consider this, it’s no surprise that many kids shy away from bitter vegetables, spicy foods, or anything with significant flavor. For some children, eating can be a sensory overload due to the variety of tastes and textures. So, give your little ones a break, alright?
- Most picky eaters are perfectly healthy and manage to get the nutrients they need, even if it means consuming vegetables only once in a blue moon or in the form of a gummy vitamin.
I see countless articles on how to “fix” picky eaters: eliminate snacks, enforce strict mealtimes, and pressure them to try new foods. If those strategies work for you and your child, fantastic. For me, however, embracing the reality of picky eating as just another temporary and irritating aspect of parenting has resulted in happier mealtimes for both my kids and me.
Happy kids lead to a happy mom, and that’s what I’ll take any day.
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In summary, remember that picky eating is a common experience among children and can be managed with a bit of patience and understanding. Embrace the chaos, and it might just lead to smoother mealtimes.