So, you’re expecting, and a calm voice from the medical field has informed you that your pregnancy is categorized as “high risk.” Whether it’s due to advanced maternal age, type 1 diabetes, or the delightful surprise of carrying twins—like I recently did—you might be feeling a bit overwhelmed. If your hands are clenched and you find yourself wanting to escape every time someone comments on your size or appearance, you’re not alone. Or perhaps you’ve barricaded yourself in your room, emerging only for bathroom breaks every 15 minutes, consumed by fear for your baby’s health. If that resonates, keep reading. Here’s how to make it through until your little one arrives and the chaos starts to settle.
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings
All the intense emotions you’re experiencing are perfectly normal. One moment you might be questioning your choices, and the next, you could be overwhelmed with fears about your baby’s health. It’s okay to feel all this and more. Crying multiple times a day? That’s not just allowed; it’s a right. Embrace those emotions.
2. Lean on Your Partner
Your significant other’s role is to listen empathetically as you voice your concerns. Ensure they understand the importance of being present and supportive, which includes delivering those much-needed foot massages.
3. Never Attend an Ultrasound Alone
Please, don’t go to an ultrasound by yourself. I learned this the hard way during my twin pregnancy when I received devastating news alone, leaving me to drive home in tears. Having someone you trust by your side is invaluable for emotional support during such appointments.
4. Be Kind to Your Healthcare Providers
Being sweet to your medical team can pay off. It’s been shown that when expectant mothers treat others well, they often receive better care in return. However, if your care feels inadequate and puts you or your baby at risk, don’t hesitate to speak up or switch doctors.
5. Avoid Forums Like the Plague
If you must Google your condition (and let’s be real, you probably will), steer clear of online forums where people share horror stories. These accounts can be more distressing than helpful. Treat them like you would a three-way mirror when wearing only your maternity underwear—best to avoid.
6. Prioritize Rest
Aim to be in bed by 8 p.m., or even better, 7. The sooner you hit the hay, the greater your chance of getting some much-needed rest. Sleep will be elusive, so commit to spending time in bed, even if you can’t fall asleep right away.
7. Listen to Calming Sounds
Find audio that helps soothe your mind and makes you feel relaxed. For me, it was audiobooks from a calming author. For you, it might be ocean waves or soft music. Regular exposure will help train your brain to unwind, combating anxiety—one of your biggest adversaries.
8. You Are Not Alone
Despite the cheerful baby bump photos flooding social media, many others share the same struggles. Remembering that “others feel this too” can provide some comfort, as my friend Tara often reminds me.
9. Invest in Comfort
Don’t hesitate to spend money on items that alleviate discomfort. Stock up on essentials like Tucks, colace, and even a cleaning service to keep your home in order. You can be frugal later; prioritize your well-being now.
10. Delegate Your Responsibilities
Keep a list of tasks that stress you out and share it with your support network. When someone offers help, direct them to your list. Whether it’s dealing with insurance issues or handling pet care, offloading tasks allows you to focus on what really matters: envisioning your healthy baby in your arms.
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Summary:
Navigating a high-risk pregnancy can be overwhelming, but it’s important to acknowledge your feelings, lean on your partner, and ensure you have support during medical appointments. Prioritize rest, seek comfort in audio that calms you, and don’t hesitate to invest in what you need. Remember, you’re not alone, and delegating tasks can help you focus on the joyous anticipation of your baby’s arrival.