Updated: November 8, 2018
Originally Published: June 10, 2015
- Communicate Your Arrival Time: If you’re running late, don’t wait until the last minute to inform her. Think about when you had to complete a set of chin-ups; you reach 18 and someone demands more. That’s frustrating, right? Let her know in advance so she can manage her expectations.
- Head Straight Inside: When you arrive home, skip the neighborly banter. Assume chaos reigns inside, and your partner has been counting down the minutes until you’re there to take over. She’s probably been thinking, “Just another 30 minutes… 29… 28…”
- Show Enthusiasm for the Baby: Even if you adore your little one, remember that new moms often feel an overwhelming sense of duty. If you say something like, “I’ve missed the baby all day; go take a break,” she’ll likely feel more inclined to take some time for herself. It’s a win-win for both of you.
- Skip the Dinner Inquiry: If everyone is safe and sound by the time you get home, that’s a success. Asking “What’s for dinner?” could earn you a sarcastic reply. Instead, consider alternatives like cereal or take-out. Just wing it.
- Avoid Complaining About Your Day: No matter how tough your day was, she could probably top it. And opening up about your stress might just lead to a deeper conversation you weren’t prepared for. Plus, remember, she’s been awake all night, watching you peacefully sleep. Don’t give her any ideas about using that nursing pillow on you.
- Avoid Calling It ‘Babysitting’: If you’re caring for your child, you’re parenting—not babysitting. If you slip up, expect a glare from any seasoned mother. Instead, use terms like “daddy duty” or “on call.”
- Watch Out for Baby Vomit: Holding the baby above your head may seem fun, but be prepared for the inevitable spit-up. Babies can launch their meals without warning, turning you into a target.
- Be the Stealthy Helper: Often, new dads can feel sidelined as attention shifts to the baby. Embrace your role like a skilled operative—quietly helping with chores and stepping in when needed. Your contributions may go unnoticed at first, but they’ll be appreciated in time.
In these early months, your role is crucial. Many fathers step up right away, but those who say things like, “I’ll be home early with dinner, and let’s take the baby for a walk,” are truly commendable.
Summary
This guide offers practical insights for new dads navigating life with their partners and newborns. It emphasizes the importance of communication, support, and understanding the challenges of new parenthood. From managing late arrivals to avoiding dinner inquiries, these tips help ensure a smoother transition into fatherhood, while also fostering a strong partnership.