Dear Moms of One,
I understand your struggles. It’s disheartening to hear terms like “only child” and the associated stigma. I feel your discomfort when others assert, sometimes forcefully, that you must have another child, claiming it would be selfish to keep your child as an only.
Perhaps your journey to parenthood was fraught with challenges like secondary infertility, or you could only afford one round of IVF. Maybe the thought of reliving the long wait for conception feels overwhelming, or perhaps you’ve faced the challenges of a difficult birth and postpartum depression. For some, one child simply meets their family’s needs, or they genuinely feel that one is enough.
Whether you believe your family is complete with one child or secretly yearn for another, it’s perfectly acceptable. You owe no one an explanation for your choices.
I relate to the need to deftly change the topic when acquaintances weigh in on your family situation. Despite not asking for opinions, many feel compelled to share their unsolicited advice, often leading to awkward conversations. I’ve silently absorbed comments that range from faint-hearted compliments to outright dismissals:
- “You must give them a sibling! Who will care for you when you’re older?”
- “Who will they play with? They’ll be lonely!”
- “You create such beautiful children; why not have more?”
- “Affording it? Just go for it! Everything will fall into place.”
- “Can’t you tell how much they desire a brother or sister? It’s just sad.”
- “The second child is so much easier; you’ll see…”
It can feel isolating in a world that often overlooks the validity of a family of three.
Contrary to popular belief, your child is not missing out on anything significant; they thrive in a nurturing environment. Having a sibling doesn’t inherently guarantee companionship, just as being an only child doesn’t equate to loneliness. Research shows that only children can often be more independent, creative, and driven. It’s puzzling why society focuses on the downsides while neglecting the many positives unique to every family structure.
Ultimately, the choice to have one child is deeply personal and doesn’t need to be justified to anyone else. You are just as courageous as any mother, and your one and only is more than enough.
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In summary, whether one child is a choice or a reality, remember you are not alone, and your child is not lacking. Your family dynamics are valid, and you have every right to embrace your unique journey.