After the birth of our youngest, we attended a wedding. Upon arriving at the hotel after the reception, we discovered that all three of our kids—ages 6, 3, and a newborn—were sound asleep. “What should we do now?” I asked quietly in the dim light. As a family of four, it was simple; each of us would carry a child to bed. But now, with our expanded crew, we faced a dilemma: how could we get them all inside without waking anyone or leaving one child behind? The answer was clear—we couldn’t. So, we gently woke our eldest, hoping she would be the easiest to rouse. “Come on, sweetheart. We need you to walk.”
This moment is just a glimpse into our new reality, which has turned out to be less overwhelming than I had feared. I had my concerns about managing after-school hours with all three kids at home, but I’ve been pleasantly surprised. My older children have become fantastic playmates, and the baby is perfectly content to observe from the floor.
I was also anxious about school pickups interfering with the infant’s nap schedule, yet I quickly learned that third children often adapt quite well—mine certainly does.
Now, our home can hardly be described as peaceful. With five family members and two elderly dogs (one of whom, a Pomeranian mix, is on a diuretic due to heart issues and has earned our constant suspicion about her bathroom habits), it’s anything but serene. My kids frequently squabble over their elaborate blanket forts that seem to multiply across the living room rug—tripping hazards that are also a pain to tidy up.
And then there was our Subaru Outback, once a beloved vehicle for its ruggedness and manual transmission, but which had transformed into a source of stress. When I announced my pregnancy, everyone wondered if we’d upgrade, but I insisted we’d stick with our Prius and squeeze all three kids into the back of the Subaru for a few more years. We even purchased a new slim car seat for my 3-year-old to fit alongside the booster and infant car seat. It was cramped, to say the least. Getting my 6-year-old settled required maneuvering her booster seat just to reach the latch and buckle her in, a task that was particularly unpleasant on cold Connecticut evenings after swim practice.
Many opt against a third-row vehicle, but I took pride in resisting the minivan trend—not for reasons of coolness but to prove we could manage in tight spaces. We had expanded our family size, adapted to our small home, and would forgo the minivan as well. However, the thrill of overcoming challenges fades quickly in the face of practicality.
Eventually, when our youngest was five months old, I decided it was time to explore minivan options. We made the choice to trade my beloved Outback for a Honda Odyssey. While I wasn’t a fan of its appearance, I soon appreciated its functionality. The sliding doors open with a touch, and once everyone is inside, we simply close them and get comfortable. There’s even enough room for a cooler, and during road trips, our dogs can finally stretch out rather than cramming into whatever space is left.
Adjusting to this new vehicle was a process. On the day we brought it home, I reflected on my age—37—and the challenges of maturing while holding onto youthful ideals. As a teenager, I dreamed of changing the world; I still aspire to that. But I also found myself genuinely excited about owning a minivan.
In my “mini,” as I affectionately call it, I navigate the roads with newfound ease. The spacious driver’s seat allows me to focus ahead without the constant need to check mirrors for mischief in the backseat. It offers a smooth ride that feels perfectly suited to this stage of my life, a refreshing experience that I’m learning to embrace.
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Summary
This article reflects on the transition to a larger family and the impact it has on daily life, particularly in managing three children. While the initial fears of chaos and stress were present, the experience has been surprisingly rewarding. The family upgraded to a more practical Honda Odyssey, which eased some of the challenges of travel with young kids. Embracing this new vehicle symbolizes a shift in perspective as they navigate the complexities of family life.