Long before you came into this world, I was navigating the tumultuous waters of being a teenager myself—filled with angst, a fair share of attitude (sorry, Mom and Dad), and those oh-so-fun cramps. It’s amusing to think about how I can relate to your struggles yet often find myself perplexed by them at the same time.
If only we could have children in our teenage years—though I must clarify, that’s an entirely different conversation! The point is, it’s better to start a family after you’ve settled on your education, career, and relationships. The more years that pass, the harder it becomes to empathize with the emotional rollercoaster of adolescence. I’ve become what every young person fears: a parent.
Annie, believe it or not, I once had intense crushes on boys, too. I remember nervously dialing their numbers only to be met by their dad, leading me to quickly hang up—an action you might not fully appreciate in the age of instant communication. Oh, how I wish I had platforms like Snapchat and Instagram during my teenage years! Imagine the informed decisions I could have made about my crushes if I could have “friended” them and seen what they looked like flexing in a filter.
While there are generational differences, I see some similarities between us. You’re lucky to have amazing friends, just as I did. You’re immersed in music and can name every popular artist—something I prided myself on, thanks to my dad, your grandpa.
Would You Have Noticed Me?
Would you have noticed me in high school? Would we have exchanged smiles in the hallway but never really connected? Would our lunch orders have matched? At 14, I enjoyed skiing and cozying up with my dog on winter nights. I was decent at playing the clarinet and had a plethora of hobbies, yet I often felt invisible among my peers. Do you ever feel that way?
At that age, I was the class clown, always trying to elicit laughter, even at the risk of looking silly. Whether it was poking fun at the cafeteria pizza or playfully startling friends, I was determined to entertain. I remember wearing oversized earrings, button-up shirts, and penny loafers—fashion choices that were all the rage in the ’80s, alongside my fondness for corduroy pants and feathered hair.
I was very close to my parents back then. I skipped band camp and a French trip to Quebec simply because I was too anxious to leave home. I can almost hear your sighs of disbelief. Ah, and there was that time I dressed up my dog for New Year’s Eve—just one of the many reasons I found myself celebrating the holiday with him.
I had remarkable friends who accepted me for who I was, just like the friendships you’ve developed since starting high school. You’ve had your ups and downs, but your bonds are strong, reminiscent of my childhood best friend, Wendy, who lived just a few houses down.
Our Similarities
Like you, I had my own style—musk perfume, towering bangs, and blue eyeshadow. I would dance for hours in my room, lost in the music of the day. I had crushes but no boyfriends, likely because I was too busy perfecting my dance moves and dressing up my dog. I made mixtapes on rainy days and roller-skated around the block with friends.
Honestly, aside from the dog costumes and the fashion faux pas, we are surprisingly similar. Yes, we face different challenges, but the essence of being a teenager remains the same. This time is challenging, and as a parent, I often feel like I’m navigating uncharted waters, filled with sleepless nights and frustrations. I find myself holding back from embarrassing you in public, knowing that one day, I’ll be able to share more moments openly.
I look forward to the day when I can hold your hand without worrying about who’s watching. For now, I’ll cherish those fleeting glances at the incredible person you’re becoming, remembering that I, too, was once 14. And I turned out just fine.
Further Reading
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In summary, while our experiences may differ due to the time gap, the emotions and challenges of being a teenager resonate through the ages.