Gender (In)Equality: What About the Boys?

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By: Emily Carter

Updated: Dec. 8, 2020

Originally Published: May 18, 2015

I recently came across an intriguing piece about two mothers who, frustrated by the limited options in girls’ clothing, launched a line featuring prints like rocket ships, trains, and dinosaurs—designs typically confined to the boys’ section of stores. This sparked a thought.

While I wholeheartedly embrace the concept of girls donning “boy” designs, I can’t help but wonder: What about the boys? What about those boys who wish to wear traditionally “girl” designs? What about the boys who would prefer to be Elsa for Halloween instead of Olaf?

As a woman, I recognize the importance of advocating for women’s rights and gender equality. I want to achieve everything a man can and be evaluated based solely on my intelligence and character, not my gender. This is a sentiment I wish for my three daughters as well.

So, I’m not criticizing the recent attention to girls wanting to be superheroes, astronauts, or scientists. It’s fantastic to see this shift. Women are capable of achieving anything men can, and girls should enjoy the same interests as boys. Yet, it seems boys are often overlooked in this conversation.

Consider This Perspective

If one of my daughters prefers pants over dresses or sports over dance, no one bats an eye. Her athleticism will be celebrated, her intelligence encouraged, and her adventurous spirit cheered on. I can confidently share photos of her muddy and playing outside on social media without fear of negative comments. No one will suggest she should pursue more “feminine” interests or worry about her future based on her athletic endeavors.

In contrast, my perfect, delightful 5-year-old son, who wanted to be Elsa for Halloween, faced challenges. We had to piece together a costume because no stores offer a “Boy Elsa” option, and I worried about the reactions from peers if I let him wear a dress to preschool.

He also loves My Little Pony, yet finding a My Little Pony t-shirt for him is nearly impossible. Meanwhile, I can easily find superhero shirts for my daughters, and even when I buy from the boys’ section, the designs are often gender-neutral enough to avoid scrutiny from other kids. In contrast, the girls’ shirts are often embellished with ruffles or in stereotypical colors that don’t appeal to him.

This presents a dilemma as a parent. Yes, allowing my son to wear a girl’s shirt would make him happy. However, what would happen at school when some unkind kids make comments? He’s sensitive, and I want to protect him from negative experiences that could stifle his unique spirit. Thus, I find myself navigating the delicate balance between supporting his authenticity and shielding him from potential ridicule.

Broaden the Conversation

So, why is this side of gender inequality rarely discussed? Why do we focus on empowering girls to embrace their identities while inadvertently neglecting boys? Why do well-meaning friends and family members suggest steering my son towards more conventional interests, implying he should abandon what he loves?

“Your son is definitely going to be gay,” they say, as if that’s a fact. Why should I care about his sexual orientation if he is happy? “You’re going to teach him to be gay,” is another misguided comment. But, that’s not even a real concern.

It’s time we broaden the conversation. We need to dismantle stereotypes suggesting boys are limited to certain interests while girls can explore any avenue. Let’s advocate for acceptance across the board, not just for one gender. This mama is ready for change.

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Summary

This article emphasizes the overlooked side of gender inequality concerning boys and their interests. While there is a growing movement to encourage girls to embrace traditionally male interests, boys who wish to explore feminine interests often face societal resistance. The author shares personal anecdotes about her son’s experiences, urging a more inclusive approach to gender expression and acceptance for all children.