In our cozy kitchen, my three-and-a-half-year-old daughter, Emma, stands beside me, fists clenched and eyes wide with urgency. My husband, Alex, is busy sautéing mushrooms, while I share my frustrations from earlier in the day. I recount how a miscommunication in an email had me feeling overwhelmed.
“Mommy! Mommy! If you don’t talk to me, I, I, I…” Emma’s voice rises with panic as she grapples for a consequence that matches her distress. “If you don’t talk to me, I won’t be alive anymore!”
I glance down at my determined little girl, her brown pigtails bouncing. In that moment, it’s hard to distinguish between her youthful fervor and my own adult frustrations. After all, one of us is nearly four, while the other is almost forty.
Wearing my nightgown at 5 p.m., I feel the weight of exhaustion. I just need five minutes to finish my thoughts, maybe ten for a hot bath to soothe my aching muscles from yesterday’s ballet class, and then perhaps a leisurely hour to unwind with an episode of Wolf Hall.
I scoop up Emma and say, “Did you know that parents are people too?” Her wide eyes reflect her eagerness for connection, and I feel her full attention. “Mommies are people, just like everyone else, and they have responsibilities.”
I reach to find the lyrics to “Parents Are People” from the nostalgic classic Free to Be You and Me, a beloved part of my own childhood.
“When mommies were little, they used to be girls, just like some of you. But then they grew…”
Suddenly, I’m transported back to my own childhood, surrounded by the vibrant colors of my past. I remember sitting on the orange shag carpet of my room in sunny Southern California, immersed in a world of leotards, textbooks wrapped in brown paper, and the sweet sounds of my favorite albums.
As I pull up the Free to Be You and Me album on my phone, I note to myself that I should join the trend and invest in a record player—it really does provide a richer sound. We dance together, Emma fitting perfectly in my embrace, swaying to the lyrics:
“Mommies are women, women with children, busy with children and things that they do…”
As dusk settles and the lights of our New York City neighborhood flicker on, we enjoy our little dance party. Outside, life continues bustling by: people hurrying home, dogs excitedly bounding down steps, and teenagers laughing as they stroll past.
My husband switches off the stove, dinner can wait for our moment of connection. We sing together, and I reflect on how Emma used to wonder why I cried while listening to certain songs. Now she simply understands; there’s a profound world where parents can feel both alone and entirely connected with their children at once.
I look at her and realize: “We don’t have to change at all.” This simple truth resonates deeply between us, bridging the gap of years and experiences.
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Summary
In a tender moment, a mother teaches her daughter about boundaries and the importance of recognizing parents as individuals, blending nostalgia with the present. Their shared experience, inspired by the classic Free to Be You and Me, highlights the beauty of connection in parenting and the significance of allowing space for both individual needs and family bonds.