Summer vacation brings an avalanche of family time in our household of five. While this can be enjoyable, it often devolves into endless squabbles among the kids. For me, this occupies about 87% of my daily life. Although I cherish my role as a mediator (alongside being a chauffeur, cook, housekeeper, and activity organizer), I’m in dire need of relief from their constant disagreements. Honestly, I’d prefer to endure a slow extraction of my hair by a rogue squirrel than listen to them bicker for another moment.
One day, I found myself scouring the internet for wisdom from so-called “parenting gurus,” convinced that someone would have a straightforward method to turn my children into harmonious little beings, hand-in-hand, joyfully singing songs of peace. Unfortunately, what I discovered was shockingly impractical, so much so that I nearly spilled my glass of wine. Here’s a rundown of some “expert” strategies to eliminate sibling fighting.
- Cultivate Patience. I suspect the only “child” this expert has is a pet with fur and four legs.
- Create a Kindness List. I can practically hear my children rolling their eyes. The kindest thing my daughter recently said to her brother was, “Please get your gross arm away from me. You have dry skin.” I’ll take that as a win for now.
- Avoid Forcing Toy Sharing. Hahaha! Sorry, but that’s laughable.
- Spend Quality Time Together. The last thing we need is more “togetherness.” A recent spat occurred precisely because they were too close for comfort.
- Start Your Day in Harmony. Skeptical headshake.
- Hear Both Sides. Sure, it would be nice to understand the arguments over who had the last Popsicle, but I can’t make sense of anything over their ear-splitting yells, which sound like a pair of pterodactyls wrestling on a bubble wrap sheet.
- Space Out Your Kids by Three Years. Great advice! Too bad I’m already in the midst of a sibling rivalry with two kids and no time machine to fix it.
- Avoid Accusations. Children can be notorious fabricators. It’s hard to remain calm while my 10-year-old swears he didn’t smack his sister with a wiffle bat, even with a clear goose egg on her head.
- Celebrate Their Fights. “What a perfect moment to teach conflict resolution skills!” said no parent ever.
- Isolate the Kids and Pour Yourself a Drink. Oh wait, that’s my own advice. Maybe I’m onto something here.
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In summary, sibling rivalry is a complex challenge that many parents face. While expert advice can sometimes feel unrealistic, finding your own strategies—like a little parental timeout—might just be the solution you need.