The Newborn Phase
Ah, the newborn stage. Experienced mothers often reminisce about it with nostalgia, leaving new moms feeling a mix of envy and frustration. Let’s be real: the initial months with your first child can be overwhelming. You may find yourself feeling unkempt, exhausted, and emotionally drained, leading to thoughts of disappearing—perhaps to Vegas. I understand; I’ve been through it. However, if you’re open to some advice, here are the insights I wish I had during my journey as a new mom:
It’s the Toughest Part
For the first time, you are tasked with putting another person’s needs above your own continuously. This responsibility can be terrifying, as it forces you to confront a level of selflessness you might not have known existed. It’s hard work, especially when you’re up for the umpteenth time, covered in baby mess, and just yearning for sleep. Remember, this doesn’t mean you dislike your baby; you’re simply navigating the steep learning curve of motherhood. Kudos to you for not choosing to escape!
Your Nursing Choices Are Yours
In the age of the internet, it might seem like everyone has an opinion about breastfeeding or bottle feeding. Here’s the truth: no one is going to lose their mind if you nurse in public. And if someone does comment, feel free to channel your postpartum energy and educate them about your rights. Likewise, if you prefer bottle-feeding, you shouldn’t feel judged; those who do are likely not worth your time.
Cluster Feeding Isn’t Forever
If you choose to feed on demand, brace yourself for marathon sessions where your baby may want to be attached to you for hours. You might find yourself skipping showers for days, but this phase will not last forever. Hang in there!
Always Pack Extra Clothes
Trust me: you can never have too many changes of clothes on hand. You never know when a diaper explosion or spit-up incident will occur.
Bodily Fluids Will Be Involved
At some point, every mother will find herself catching her child’s vomit with her bare hands. You will become desensitized to various bodily fluids—poop, pee, and even blood—that would horrify anyone else, including your partner.
Ignore the Critics
When it comes to parenting, unsolicited advice is everywhere. Remember, unless the person giving you advice has gone through the process themselves—whether through childbirth or adoption—they don’t get a say. The only exception may be your partner, and they should proceed with caution!
Enjoy the Mobility of Your Baby
Your baby is transportable! Use a carrier that allows you to take your little one wherever you want. My partner and I once enjoyed a meal at an oyster bar with our one-month-old snuggled in a wrap. When the baby fussed, I simply nursed—no big deal!
Minimalism is Key
You don’t need a mountain of baby gear. A few diapers, some clothes, and a pacifier will suffice. Leave the extra items—like baby sunglasses and multiple blankets—at home.
Trust Your Instincts
If something feels off with your baby, it probably is. There’s no such thing as colic in the sense that your baby hates you; something might be wrong. For instance, I thought my baby was simply cranky, only to discover he was suffering from severe acid reflux. Always listen to your intuition.
Accept Help When It’s Offered
It can be difficult to accept assistance, but it’s crucial. Say yes to offers of meals and cleaning. Enjoy the generosity of others; you owe them nothing in return.
You’re the Boss
Ultimately, it’s your baby. You have the right to say no to anyone who wants to hold them. Relatives and friends may have the privilege of holding your baby, but don’t hesitate to take them back when you want. It’s your baby, and your rules apply.
Savor the Moment
Take the time to relax, cuddle, and simply enjoy your newborn. This phase is fleeting. When my third baby arrived, I reveled in the chance to stay in bed for weeks, soaking up every snuggle. Don’t worry about chores—focus on cherishing this unique time.
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Summary
The newborn phase can be overwhelming for new moms, filled with challenges like cluster feeding and unsolicited advice. Embrace the journey, trust your instincts, and don’t hesitate to accept help. Enjoy the snuggles and moments that come with this fleeting stage of motherhood.