Dear little one,
From the very first moment you entered this world, people have commented on your beauty. Yes, you are stunning, especially in the eyes of your mom and dad. However, I hope you aspire to gain recognition for your skills and passions—those talents that you work hard to develop. Be extraordinary. Be intelligent. Put in the effort. Your beauty should be just one aspect of who you are. May your journey lead you toward deeper interests that overshadow mere appearances. Seek out brilliance, curiosity, dedication, passion, honesty, humor, and expertise. Your beauty will shine even brighter when it is complemented by an array of unique gifts.
You’ll often hear strangers and friends urging you to “smile!” I want you to know that you have the freedom to express any emotion you feel—scowl, reflect, cry, muse, sing, or smile. Your face is a reflection of your heart, and you owe no one a forced grin.
When you were born, I was met with comments about dressing you in pink frills. Some said you would bring balance to your brothers, while others playfully claimed “girls rule, boys drool.” I hope you embrace a blend of strong female characters—think Hermione Granger, Judy Blume, and Kurt Vonnegut. Dive into the worlds of Doctor Who, Star Wars, and classic sitcoms like Murphy Brown, but approach modern phenomena like the Kardashians and Twilight with a critical eye.
Remember, women can be hilarious and multifaceted. You are not limited to roles like the nurse, the wife, or even the “Brilliant Hooker.” You have the potential to be a surgeon, a leader, or even the President. You can take on any role—from the ingenue to Tree Number Seven.
Appreciate the beauty of being an alto, and don’t shy away from taking the stage solo. I hope you learn to spike a volleyball, dribble a basketball, kick a soccer ball, and run freely. Pink is lovely, but it is not your only option. While it softens and charms, remember that it does not define you.
Shout “Holy Yeses!” whenever possible. Embrace the thrill of the unknown, as the scariest experiences often teach us the most profound lessons. Don’t fear being disliked; instead, be wary of those who justify rudeness.
Jump high and embrace your energy, but also know when to pause and reflect. Math may seem challenging, but with time and dedication, you can master it. Remember, there are right and wrong answers in math—and in life.
Learn languages, navigate public transit, and master the polite art of saying “no, thank you.” Be cautious with terms like “bitch,” and steer clear of the c-word—other women are not your adversaries. Celebrate your femininity and recognize that masculinity is equally valuable; men are not your enemies.
Being concise is a skill that serves you well, but listening is an even greater gift. Understand that the word “cute” often loses its charm after a certain age. Focus on your health and well-being instead of worrying about fitting into societal standards. Indulge when it brings you joy.
Savor the moment. Laugh heartily. Apologize when necessary. Forgive easily. Raise an eyebrow or two. Stay my baby for just a little while longer. I would hold you in my arms forever if I thought it would help you grow into a better person. While it may not, it certainly would feel wonderful. No matter who you become or what advice you choose to follow, remember that I love you.
Love,
Mom
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Summary: This heartfelt letter to a newborn daughter emphasizes the importance of personal growth and self-expression over societal expectations of beauty. It encourages her to embrace her interests, challenge stereotypes, and cultivate meaningful relationships with others while celebrating her uniqueness.