Based on the endless parenting advice circulating online, it seems I’m failing as a mother. To clarify, my kids are happy, social, and wonderful little beings. However, I often find myself engaging in practices that parenting experts warn against. Here’s a rundown of my perceived parental shortcomings, presented without a specific ranking.
1. My kids control the TV
At just two and four years old, my children have mastered the remote and can navigate the DVR. They know exactly how to find and watch their favorite shows.
2. Snack time is their choice
“Can I have a cookie?” Absolutely. “Can I have a lollipop?” Sure! “How about some Goldfish?” Yes, go for it!
3. Juice box consumption? No worries
I’m not keeping tabs on how many ounces of juice they drink daily. Honestly, I often find myself responding with, “I have no idea.”
4. Napping is a thing of the past
While my younger child still naps, my four-year-old has moved on. I refuse to spend two hours trying to enforce a nap he doesn’t want.
5. Co-sleeping has become routine
My two-year-old didn’t co-sleep as a baby, but one night she climbed into my bed, and now it’s a nightly occurrence. I’m perfectly content with this arrangement.
6. I raise my voice sometimes
I do lose my temper from time to time. Sure, yelling doesn’t solve anything, but I’m human, and after saying “no” fifty times, my patience wears thin.
7. Hot dogs are on the menu
I have no regrets about feeding my kids hot dogs. They’re tasty, and I’m not overly concerned with their ingredients.
8. My child climbs the slide
Every single day, my son insists on climbing up the slide. He’s aware to move aside when others are at the top, so I let him have his fun.
9. Bedtime? What’s that?
My kids don’t have a set bedtime. They simply need to be out of the common areas by 8 PM, allowing me some much-needed downtime. They usually go to sleep when they’re ready—around 8:45 for the two-year-old and closer to 9:30 for the four-year-old. I’ve been asked how this will affect school, and I assume he’ll adjust naturally when he’s tired.
I’m sure there are countless other things I do that the “experts” would frown upon. However, I don’t see myself as a bad parent. My kids are polite, well-behaved, and enjoy being around others. They can sit through meals at restaurants without a hitch.
I eventually stopped feeling guilty about not adhering to every parenting guideline. My own mother did many of these things (and more) back in the ‘70s, and I turned out fine. I used to pretend my kids didn’t eat junk food and that I never raised my voice, but who was I trying to impress? Parenting isn’t a competition.
What truly matters is the love and care we provide for our children. Others may prioritize different aspects of parenting, and that’s perfectly fine. Meanwhile, I’ve embraced my own style, juice boxes and all.
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In summary, I’m not perfect, but I’m confident in my parenting abilities. My kids are thriving and happy, and that’s what truly counts.