When I first learned that I was going to be a mom, the excitement was palpable. However, that thrill took an unexpected turn when I discovered I was expecting not one, but three little ones. While our family of five felt like a blessing, the experience of raising triplets often left me feeling somewhat disconnected from other mothers. Here are some key insights to consider about raising triplets:
- The Curious Mind: I find myself often contemplating what it would be like to have just one child—not because I wish for it, but because I cherish each of my little ones. There’s something magical about holding a sleepy newborn, but with triplets, that moment is fleeting as I must quickly tend to the others. I sometimes imagine the ease of going shopping without drawing stares or whispers, and I can’t help but envy that sense of normalcy.
- The Fascination of Others: My family dynamic tends to spark unusual interest from others—often leading to intrusive questions. People feel entitled to ask about our conception journey, whether it was planned, or if we used fertility treatments. While I’m open about our struggles with infertility and our IVF journey, the inquiries from strangers can feel invasive. It’s not just the questions; it’s the constant attention. Whether it’s comments in a café or the whispers of onlookers at the park, I often feel overwhelmed. I’m not shy by nature, but these experiences have made me retreat into my shell.
- A Different Kind of Normal: Our daily life with three infants presents distinct logistical challenges. Other families may not think twice about car seats, strollers, or feeding schedules, but these are our daily puzzles to solve. We have to consider if our stroller fits through doorways, if there are enough high chairs at restaurants, and how to manage a trip to the doctor’s office with three little ones. Our normal may not be better or worse—just uniquely different.
- Validating Every Struggle: You might say things like, “I shouldn’t complain about my one baby,” when you see my trio. Please, let’s share our struggles. Parenting is tough, and while our challenges may differ, we’re all navigating the same tumultuous waters of motherhood. Your feelings are just as valid as mine.
- Easier in Some Ways: While managing triplets is no small feat, there are aspects that offer simplicity. For example, when it’s bedtime, my kids often settle down without needing much encouragement. They don’t expect individual attention, which makes my life a bit easier. As they grow, their playtime together allows me some much-needed moments to catch up on other tasks.
- No Supermom Here: I dislike the term “Supermom.” If you had three babies at once, you would simply do what needs to be done—just as I do. Honestly, I believe anyone in my position would likely do it even better.
- A Call for Connection: Raising multiples can feel isolating. People assume I’m too busy or stressed to socialize, or they hesitate to include me in outings due to the challenges of managing my crew. I need companionship, support, and a sounding board for ideas. I want to be your anchor too, as we navigate this chaotic but beautiful journey together.
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Summary
Raising triplets comes with unique challenges and moments of joy that can be difficult to relate to for others. From the fascination of bystanders to the logistics of daily life, parents of multiples face distinct experiences that require adaptability and support. It’s essential to validate each other’s struggles and find community in this journey.