“Why didn’t you come in sooner?” my doctor inquired after I explained that my periods had been arriving every couple of weeks for the last six months.
“Well… I thought it was just a part of getting older,” I replied.
“You’re only 43,” she responded. “You’re not in menopause.”
True enough. While I’m not in menopause yet, it appears I’m facing something else: perimenopause.
This is that delightful phase when your body enjoys throwing curveballs, leading to irregular menstrual cycles, breast tenderness, and emotional ups and downs. Exciting times, right?
As stated by the Mayo Clinic, perimenopause refers to the transition period before menopause, characterized by fluctuating estrogen levels. Your menstrual cycles may become erratic, offering a sneak peek at those infamous menopause symptoms we’ve heard about since we were young — thanks, Aunt Gladys, for the folding fan you brought to every family gathering, even in winter.
Menopause typically occurs in your 50s, but the Cleveland Clinic indicates that perimenopause can kick in 8 to 10 years prior, which is defined as 12 consecutive months without a period. It often begins in your 40s, although some individuals may start experiencing it in their 30s. On average, this transitional phase lasts around four years. So, get ready, those of you with a uterus — we’re in for a rollercoaster ride of hot flashes, breast discomfort, and random tears during heartwarming commercials.
Isn’t having a uterus just the best?
Perimenopause is a natural process where your body produces less estrogen and releases eggs less frequently. Essentially, it’s when your menstrual cycle begins to wind down. While the likelihood of pregnancy decreases, periods can still occur. Most of the strange experiences during these years are attributed to hormonal fluctuations.
Here are some signs that you might be entering this phase:
Given the chaos that comes with perimenopause, we should really have a fun name for it. How about “The Peri-Meny Club”? Here are a few signs you might be part of this club:
- You wake up drenched like you just ran a marathon, even with the fan on high.
- Your menstrual cycle has taken on a life of its own. It might be longer, shorter, heavier, or lighter — good luck keeping track!
- You could use a gallon of lube for that “desert” feeling down there.
- Your emotions are all over the spectrum — one moment you’re scrubbing the kitchen in a fit of rage, and the next, you’re sobbing into a pint of ice cream.
- Your breasts feel like they’ve been squeezed in a mammogram machine nonstop, and your nipples are not happy.
- You occasionally find yourself leaking during laughter. (This may be an ongoing issue since childbirth.)
- You find yourself wide awake at 2 a.m., then again at 3:00 and 4:30.
While perimenopause can be frustrating and perplexing, these symptoms usually aren’t serious. However, if you’re concerned, it’s always wise to consult a healthcare professional to rule out other conditions like depression, anxiety, fibroids, or thyroid issues. Just because it’s a natural process doesn’t mean you have to endure perimenopause silently. One of my favorite self-care techniques is venting with friends — so let it all out! There are also other strategies that can help, including hormone therapy, antidepressants, calcium supplements, and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
If you’re experiencing some (or many) of these signs, you may be ready to join Club Peri-Meny. But remember, this doesn’t mean we’re past our prime.
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Summary:
Perimenopause marks the transitional phase before menopause, often starting in your 40s or even 30s. Symptoms can include irregular periods, hot flashes, and emotional fluctuations. While these changes can be challenging, they are a natural part of aging. There are various strategies for managing symptoms, and it’s essential to seek support and information.