Hello there, I’m a woman in her mid-life phase. It’s true; I might not be the center of attention anymore, but honestly? It’s pretty liberating! If I’m meant to live until 95 — a stretch, but possible — then I’m right in the middle of my life journey. Looking back, I see a lot of messy experiences: intense parenting, food struggles, self-doubt, and a lack of inspiration. Thankfully, I’ve made many of my major blunders already and have been pretty transparent about my journey.
At 47, with 48 approaching, I find myself in the “autumn” of life. This realization has led me to a refreshing perspective where I simply don’t care about many things anymore. For instance, I’ve completely let go of the need to censor my language. If the word “fuck” offends you, I apologize, but I’m done worrying about it.
Now that I’m past my prime — think more seasoned and sophisticated rather than youthful and innocent — there are several things that no longer stress me out:
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What to Wear
While I’m not one to adhere to a “mom uniform” these days, I’ve completely stopped fretting over the latest trends or what others think of my outfits. I prefer comfort, so yoga pants paired with a stylish top that flatters my figure is my go-to. After experimenting with various styles over the years, I know what works for me. A casual dinner out? You’ll find me rocking my yoga pants and a chic top that says, “I look good, but I’m also totally relatable.” -
Who My Friends Are
The friends who matter most to me have seen every aspect of my chaotic, yet fulfilling life. They’ve been my allies, my support system, and sometimes my critics. We share a bond that transcends the need for constant communication; we know we’re there for each other without keeping up appearances. We’re a low-maintenance crew of women who would go to great lengths for one another. -
Whether You Like Me or Not
If you think I’m out of touch for my opinions on parenting, that’s your prerogative. I wrote an article discussing how many parents, myself included, sometimes let their children dictate our lives. If you didn’t agree with it but still shared it, that’s fine too. I appreciate the dialogue, whether it’s positive or negative. -
Culinary Skills
Cooking is an art that takes years to master. I’ve spent countless hours in the kitchen, and I can confidently say I know my way around a stove. If I promise dinner in nine minutes, you can count on it being ready exactly then. Experience has been my greatest teacher. -
Intimacy
When it comes to intimacy, I’ve reached a level of comfort that only comes with age. I know what I want and how to communicate it, which is incredibly freeing. If things aren’t clicking, we’re perfectly fine with moving on to other activities, like reading or watching a game. No pressure, just enjoyment. -
Growing Out Bangs
By this age, bangs are either a permanent fixture or a thing of the past. I’ve learned not to play around with hairstyles that don’t suit me. My grandmother had the right idea — stick to what works and own it.
This list is just a glimpse into what I no longer stress about, and I could go on. However, I do have some concerns, like those pesky chin hairs and eye bags that come with age. As we navigate this stage of life, we might also worry about hip replacements and the occasional bald spot. So, young ladies, enjoy your youth while it lasts! And make a solid decision about those bangs once and for all.
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Summary:
As a woman in her 40s, I’ve let go of many worries, including fashion choices, opinions of others, and culinary skills. My focus has shifted to what truly matters: authentic friendships and personal comfort. This stage of life is liberating, allowing me to embrace my identity without the stress of societal expectations.