I once encountered a colleague who expressed her disdain for her job by loudly proclaiming her desire to be fired. I pulled her aside and explained that the very people hearing her comments could someday be connected to a company she might want to work for. What if her future boss asked them, “Hey, do you know Sarah? She used to walk around saying she wanted to be let go.” That’s not the impression you want to leave.
Several phrases are best avoided both at work and home, especially if you want to maintain positive relationships in your community.
1. Avoid labeling someone as incompetent.
At work: There will always be individuals who may not excel in their roles, but if you’re not in a position to address it, it’s best to remain silent. Criticizing others only reflects poorly on you, suggesting insecurity and unkindness—qualities that aren’t desirable in a colleague.
At home: Never speak negatively about other parents in front of your children. Kids tend to repeat things they hear, and you don’t want them relaying your opinions about their friends’ families.
2. Think twice before friending everyone on social media.
At work: I’ve seen colleagues post absurd updates on Facebook, from complaints about hangovers to confessions of slacking off at work. Such posts can lead to unwanted consequences—like job loss.
At home: Be cautious about connecting with your children’s friends’ parents online. Gossip can spread quickly, and you might not want to risk sharing personal opinions that could affect your kids’ friendships.
3. Keep desires for others’ possessions to yourself.
At work: Craving a coworker’s position? Keep it to yourself. Expressing such desires can create discomfort, particularly with the person whose role you envy. It can also damage team dynamics.
At home: If you find yourself wanting what someone else has—be it a partner or a child—don’t voice it. Such comments can come off as unsettling and may make others uncomfortable around you.
4. Avoid glorifying intoxication.
At work: While it might be tempting to share fun stories about after-work parties, doing so can lead to reputational issues. You don’t want your judgment questioned by colleagues.
At home: There’s a growing backlash against parents who openly discuss their drinking habits. Whether it’s wine or any other substance, keep your personal choices private to avoid unsolicited scrutiny regarding your parenting.
5. Refrain from discussing politics or religion too passionately.
At work: In a bustling environment like New York, conversations about these topics are common. However, turning them into a soapbox can alienate coworkers. Being respectful of differing beliefs is crucial.
At home: Make it clear to your children that your views on politics or religion should not be discussed with their friends. For instance, my husband is a devoted Christian while I identify as an atheist. This difference has sparked interesting conversations, but I learned to be cautious when my daughter once told her friends, “Mommy hates God.” Yikes! That’s not the impression I want to leave.
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In summary, being mindful of what you say in the workplace and at home can foster better relationships and prevent misunderstandings. Avoiding negative comments about others, being cautious on social media, and steering clear of sensitive topics can help you navigate both environments more smoothly.