As summer wraps up and back-to-school season begins, it feels akin to the New Year—an opportunity for fresh starts and new commitments. Each year, I find myself promising to be punctual, to keep track of permission slips, and to prepare lunches ahead of time (which, let’s be honest, is easier said than done). This fall, I’m introducing some new resolutions, and with a bit of wisdom and experience under my belt, I’m optimistic about sticking to them.
1. I Will Embrace the Power of No.
After 12 consecutive years of having a child in school, I’ve shed the enthusiasm of the rookie mom eager to volunteer for everything from class parent to fundraising coordinator. I now find camaraderie with other parents who have been through the wringer. We’ve learned to prioritize our well-being and let go of the guilt associated with declining requests. So, to the energetic moms in their thirties, I say: take the reins on those class parties while I enjoy my well-deserved me time.
2. I Will Step Back During Mornings.
I know it sounds challenging, but I’m determined to let my kids handle their own morning routines. I realize that without my usual morning chaos, the house might resemble a scene from a sleepy sloth documentary. Yet, I’m committed to trusting that my children can wake up, prepare breakfast, and get themselves ready for school without my constant reminders. It’s time to break the cycle of morning madness, even if it means a few hiccups along the way.
3. I Will Support My Teen’s Aspirations, Not Mine.
As my eldest entered high school, I harbored specific ideas about his academic path—what classes he should take and what college he should aim for. However, I’ve come to appreciate that he is capable of forging his own path. He has different interests than I envisioned, and that’s perfectly okay. No longer will I dictate his choices; instead, I’ll encourage him to explore what truly inspires him, knowing that these interests may evolve over time.
4. I Will Refrain from Doing My Kids’ School Projects.
It’s easy for parents to spot work that’s been too heavily influenced by adults. I’ve learned that stepping back during school projects is crucial. With four kids, I’ve developed a robust resistance to last-minute pleas for help. As tempting as it is to swoop in during the eleventh hour, I’ve resolved to allow my kids to tackle their own assignments. A little struggle now is far better than facing more significant challenges later on.
5. I Will Cherish My Youngest Child’s Elementary Experience.
While I’ve grown weary of the school routine, I must remind myself that my youngest deserves to experience the joy of school just like his older siblings did. I don’t want him to feel overlooked or unappreciated in my quest for ease. Therefore, I pledge to be just as enthusiastic about his school events and milestones, capturing those moments with joy rather than exasperation. After all, the final child’s school experiences can be just as memorable as the first ones.
In summary, as we gear up for another school year, I’m focusing on being more selective about my commitments, allowing my kids to take charge of their routines and projects, and truly enjoying my youngest’s school years.