When I welcomed my daughter, her two cousins were just a year old. At the time, I didn’t fully appreciate the benefits of having a baby just a couple of years after my own mother. Initially, I worried that my mom wouldn’t be able to provide the same level of support as other grandmothers, given that she was busy with her own young kids. However, I quickly realized how wrong I was. My mom decided to embrace motherhood again at the age of 40 after remarrying and had twins through in-vitro fertilization in June 2017. I got pregnant soon after and gave birth in May 2019. While it may sound like a plot twist from a rom-com, having a child shortly after my mother has been an incredible gift. Here are some reasons why this unique family dynamic can be so beneficial.
1. A Built-in Babysitter
With my mother being a young mom herself, she’s the ideal babysitter. She’s up-to-date on diaper changes, knows how to swaddle like a pro, and is aware of the latest health guidelines. I never have to worry about her falling asleep while watching my daughter or feeding her sugary snacks. Plus, my mom is a nurse, so she has a wealth of first-aid knowledge. She truly is the perfect caregiver.
2. Timely Advice and Insights
Being an active mother means my mom has a treasure trove of modern parenting tips to share. She’s clued in on the latest baby products and has recommended excellent resources, like YouTube channels for kids. Since her twins will have just transitioned out of a developmental stage when my daughter reaches it, she always has relevant advice at the ready. Unlike many other moms who might rely on outdated methods, my mom is current and informed.
3. Built-in Playmates
My daughter will have her cousins as built-in playmates. With only a two-year gap, they are bound to grow up as best friends. I can imagine them sharing countless adventures, supporting each other through life’s challenges, and being there for one another. It’s comforting to know they’ll have each other to lean on as they grow older.
4. Endless Hand-Me-Downs
One of the best perks is the constant flow of hand-me-downs. As my younger brothers outgrow their clothes and toys, they’ll pass them along to my daughter. This means not only do I save money on new items, but I also have multiple outfit options for any messes. Before my daughter was born, I received a high chair, a baby monitor, and a stylish playmat—all valued at over $400, but I got them for free! Knowing that these items were well cared for makes it even better.
5. The Ultimate Mom Friend
Making mom friends can be challenging, but I hit the jackpot with my own mom. We can go on playdates, share parenting hacks, and vent about the ups and downs of motherhood. It’s comforting to have someone who genuinely understands the struggles and triumphs of raising a child. While friendships can fade, my mom is a constant source of support. She was already my best friend before I became a mother, and now our bond has only deepened.
While this family situation may be uncommon, if you find yourself having a baby soon after your mother, don’t fret! Your child will still receive plenty of love and attention. The benefits of sharing this journey with someone else who’s going through the same experience are invaluable. You’ll have a confidant who truly gets it, providing you with the support you need. Motherhood is a beautiful journey to share, especially with your own mom.
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Summary:
Having a baby soon after your mother can lead to numerous benefits, including a reliable babysitter, timely advice, built-in playmates for your child, a steady supply of hand-me-downs, and a strong friendship with your mom. Embracing this unique family dynamic can provide invaluable support during your motherhood journey.