It’s a crisp Saturday morning at 7:47 a.m., and I’m racing to secure a spot in my favorite step class, which kicks off at 8 a.m. The usual attendees are mainly women in their 30s to 50s. However, today I find myself entering the gym behind two new moms. Their conversation catches my attention:
“You look fantastic! You’re so slim,” says Sarah to her friend, Lisa, who is cradling a cute baby.
Lisa frowns slightly. “Oh no, I’m still a few pounds heavier than I was before having Olivia.”
I take a moment to assess Lisa; she appears undeniably slim. As a body-conscious mother of three, I can relate to these feelings.
“Yeah, I completely understand,” Sarah continues. “I can’t run as far as I used to before having Max, and it’s tough to keep the weight off. I just don’t want to give up my wine!”
Absolutely! Never let go of that wine. Meanwhile, Sarah looks even leaner than Lisa.
I understand the mindset; after the initial adjustment to motherhood, many women fixate on the idea of “getting their bodies back.” Yet, despite knowing that life has irrevocably changed, we somehow expect our bodies to revert to their pre-baby states. Watching these women head to childcare, I feel compelled to share some insights:
1. Your Body Will Change Permanently
Accept that your body has transformed forever. Even if you reach your pre-baby weight, you’ll likely find those pounds are distributed differently. Certain areas may sag or plump in unexpected ways. Personally, I’ve noticed changes like the way my backside looks in swimsuits and the new skin folds on my knees from carrying extra weight for nine months. Yet, some features have become more beautiful—like my hips, more defined cheekbones, and thicker hair.
2. Your Body’s Functionality Will Shift
Beyond appearance, how your body functions will also evolve. Running five miles without discomfort might be a distant memory. Achieving a perfectly flat stomach may no longer be feasible, no matter how many crunches I do. I can’t do jumping jacks without a little mishap, and holding a plank without a pooch is still an aspiration. Even two years after my youngest arrived, I’m still learning what my body can handle.
3. Your Body Will Achieve Incredible Things
While your body may not be what it once was, it will perform remarkable feats you never imagined. You’ll find the energy to get up for late-night feedings and the strength to carry your little one for ages. You’ll develop newfound muscular strength from countless hugs and toddler chases. I was astounded by my own speed when my child made a dash for the street. Celebrate what your new mama body can accomplish.
4. Redefining Beauty
Conversations surrounding post-baby beauty can be overwhelming. Our bodies may have changed, but that doesn’t equate to being unattractive. Our culture often fails to prepare us for these transformations. The key is to shift our perspective and recognize that our view of beauty has evolved too. Beauty can be found in the most unexpected places—a child’s long eyelashes or even the beauty of a messy moment. Remember, the soft lines around your eyes, whether from joy or sleepless nights, add character. And yes, that fuller figure? It’s still hot.
These are the realities of my post-baby body. I still grapple with accepting my new form and what it can or cannot do. I’ll admit, there are moments of envy when I see celebrity moms with their trainers and meal plans. I’m not thrilled about my less-than-perfect bladder or my chronic back pain, nor do I relish the thought of wearing Spanx. However, there’s no turning back, so why waste time feeling bad about it? Instead, I choose to embrace the body I have and never, ever give up my wine.
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In summary, our post-baby bodies are a blend of beauty, strength, and change. Embrace the journey, celebrate your capabilities, and redefine your standards of beauty.