As my son prepares to graduate, he’s filled with excitement about stepping into adulthood. Meanwhile, I find myself compiling a list of invaluable lessons I hope he carries with him into this new chapter.
- Question everything I’ve told you; I wasn’t always right.
- That doesn’t mean disregard all my advice; I have shared some wisdom along the way.
- I may have stretched the truth more than a few times. Your hand won’t detach if you wave it out a moving car window, the tooth fairy isn’t real, and the idea of starving children in China coveting your green beans is highly exaggerated.
- I’ll admit, there were moments I considered selling you—figuratively, of course. I often wondered if there was an online marketplace for frustrated parents.
- You’ve taught me just as much as I’ve taught you. As you become a father, remember to learn from your children too.
- Good table manners matter. Chewing with your mouth closed and keeping elbows off the table reflect respect for those around you.
- I regret not letting you voice your opinions more. I was focused on respect, but I should have encouraged you to stand firm in your beliefs, even when faced with authority. Apologies for that. See point #1.
- Saying “I’m sorry” doesn’t erase mistakes; accountability is essential.
- Always shower, even when you’re feeling lazy. Others may not have the courage to tell you when you smell.
- Wash your hands after using the restroom; trust me, it’s a basic sign of respect for others.
- Stand up for what’s right. As an adult man, it’s crucial to uplift others rather than take advantage of your position.
- How you treat your mother reflects how you’ll treat your partner. So, no more threats about nursing homes!
- Remember that I have a ladder, metaphorically speaking. If you ever feel the urge to act violently, know that I will come to remind you of your values—at any age.
- You’re intelligent, but wisdom comes with experience. We can chat about this when you turn forty.
- Heartbreak will happen; it’s a part of life. You’ll feel pain that seems unbearable, but it’s not a reflection of your worth.
- Limit junk food intake. The quick fixes of today can lead to long-term problems tomorrow.
- Courage isn’t the absence of fear; it’s overcoming it. Be brave in all your endeavors.
- Never text while driving, and don’t ride with anyone who does. It’s reckless and endangers lives.
- When doing laundry, opt for cold water to avoid shrinking your clothes. High heat can turn your favorite shirt into something that fits a toddler.
- I’m not done making mistakes as your parent. I’ll offer unsolicited advice and ask prying questions, but it’s all out of love and a desire to share my experiences.
- Always share. If someone around you is hungry, don’t go to bed with a full stomach.
- My love for you is unconditional. Even when I’m upset, my love remains steadfast.
- Laughter is as vital as food. Aim for laughter at least three times a day.
- It’s perfectly okay for men to cry. Anyone who says otherwise is misguided.
- I will eventually pass away. When that time comes, know that you and your sister have been the greatest joys of my life. My love for you is eternal, even when you may doubt it.
In summary, as you embark on this new journey, remember these lessons to guide you through life’s ups and downs. Each one comes from a place of love, designed to prepare you for the world ahead. For more resources on family planning and fertility, check out this article and this resource to enhance your understanding.