Father’s Day is a mix of sweet and sour emotions for me—a time to celebrate with pancakes and barbecues while feeling the weight of what I’ve missed over the years. Yet, with my own children, I find joy in creating new memories and sharing stories about their grandfather. My dad was not just a warm presence; he was a wellspring of wisdom. Even though I often tried to tune him out, much of his advice managed to stick with me. So, fellow parents, if your kids seem disinterested, remember: they are probably absorbing more than you think! Here are 20 lessons from my father that resonate deeply with me:
- Your Reputation Matters: Protect it vigilantly. Act honorably, and if you can’t, be discreet. In today’s social media climate, this advice is especially pertinent.
- Spread Joy: Aim to make someone smile every day. Kindness, politeness, and gratitude matter—always remember to say “Please,” “Thank you,” and “I’m sorry.”
- Dress with Care: Avoid unflattering clothes that might scare people away. My dad had a clear idea of what he thought was appropriate for me.
- Be a Doer: There are three types of people: observers, doers, and those who wonder what happened. Strive to be a doer, one who makes things happen.
- Cultivate Your Mind: Looks fade, but knowledge lasts. Read widely and pursue education. Our evenings often included reading together and practicing vocabulary, which I still appreciate.
- Enjoy Music: Even though he couldn’t play an instrument, our home was filled with an array of wonderful music.
- Be Generous with Tips: Treat those serving you well, as you never know when the roles might reverse.
- Have Faith: Believe in something greater than yourself.
- Welcome Others: Always be a gracious host, making guests feel at home.
- Put Yourself Out There: You won’t form connections by hiding away.
- Choose Your Partner Wisely: Look for someone intelligent, kind, hardworking, and respectful toward their family.
- Don’t Overplay Your Hand: Don’t flirt excessively or be too available; let others pursue you.
- Mind Your Words: Be careful with what you say, as words can hurt. I always felt this advice was meant for me, especially during our spirited debates.
- Be a Loyal Friend: Show affection, generosity, and care for those around you.
- Value Money: It doesn’t grow on trees. Spend wisely, but don’t shy away from enjoying nice meals and experiences either.
- Give Back: Regularly contribute to your community and help those in need.
- Prioritize Family: Cherish your relationships with your parents and siblings; don’t forget to check in on your grandparents too.
- Honesty is Key: Avoid lying; it complicates life. Acknowledge your limitations and refrain from bragging.
- Patience in Judgement: “One hot day doesn’t make it summer.” Don’t rush to conclusions about people or situations.
- Bond Over Treats: Shared moments over chocolate, whether it’s late-night conversations or indulging in cookies, strengthen parent-child relationships.
Do you have any fatherly wisdom to add?
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In summary, my father’s lessons continue to guide me as I navigate parenthood, reminding me of the importance of kindness, integrity, and the joy of shared experiences.