As a parent, I often find myself running on fumes. Time and energy are in short supply, and it feels like my wallet is perpetually lighter from expenses like summer camps, dental visits, and the occasional lost library book. Sleep? Ha! I spend more time wishing for it than actually enjoying it.
With all this, it’s clear that the emotional reserves are limited too. There are only so many cares to give, and as parents, our kids take up a significant portion of that. This means we must be judicious with what remains. If we don’t manage our emotional investments wisely, we risk being overwhelmed and unprepared for the challenges that come our way. Thus, it’s important to routinely reassess what truly deserves our attention and energy.
Here are 20 things I’m done worrying about:
- My child’s dinner choices – If my son decides he’s ‘full’ after three carrots, I’m done stressing over every meal I prepare. I’ve spent enough time crafting the perfect plate of dino-shaped nuggets and tater tots.
- Post-dinner snack requests – If he’s ‘starving’ just moments after dinner, I might suggest another carrot.
- Social media snapshots – I see your cute family photos, but let’s be real; they’re often edited to hide the chaos that preceded them. Still, I’ll hit ‘like’ because that’s just what we do.
- Toxicity in life – I try to be understanding and let things slide, but sometimes it’s best to just say, “Enough!” Life is too short for negativity.
- Screen time guilt – Sure, I know I ‘should’ limit electronics, but sometimes I just need to binge-watch my favorite show for my sanity.
- Always being kind – Kindness doesn’t always mean being nice. Sometimes, you have to assert yourself to get things done.
- What my kids wear – If they can dress themselves and wear something somewhat clean, I consider it a win. My focus is on more critical battles.
- My own wardrobe – Some days I’m all about the trendy look, other days it’s comfy sweats. By the end, my outfit is likely smeared with kid-related messes.
- Missing out – As parents, we inevitably miss out on things. But honestly, most people are probably in bed by 10 PM anyway.
- Body image – I’ve embraced my wrinkles and cellulite. They’re just part of life.
- A pristine home – With kids and pets, my house will never resemble an HGTV showcase. Accepting that is liberating.
- Keeping up with trends – I’m not one to chase the latest fashion or lingo. I still had to Google “bae” and I’m okay with not being in the loop.
- Staying in – Sometimes, I need a quiet night at home in my pajamas.
- Going out – Other times, I crave a night out, dancing and enjoying life away from the kids.
- Over-scheduling my kids – A little boredom can spark creativity. I’ve learned that letting their imaginations run wild can lead to great things.
- Finishing everything on my to-do list – Some days, it’s just about taking a nap and indulging in Oreos instead.
- Parenting philosophies – Everyone has an opinion on parenting. I prefer to trust my instincts rather than get bogged down by others’ views.
- Comparing myself to others – I’ve wasted too much time measuring myself against others’ highlights. Perfection isn’t real, and I’m done chasing it.
- My kids’ academic and athletic excellence – I’d rather focus on raising kind-hearted individuals than fret over their grades or trophies.
- Having it all together – I once thought adults had all the answers. Now, I realize we’re all just figuring things out as we go.
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