In recognition of Autism Acceptance Month, we reached out to our community of moms with autistic children to shed light on the prevalent myths they encounter. Below, in their own words, these mothers share their experiences and insights. Note: While we use “person-first” language (e.g., a child with autism), we recognize that many prefer identity-first language (e.g., autistic individual).
Myth: Autistic Children Aren’t Intelligent
“I have two sons with autism, one is 4 and the other is 11. I’ve often heard from family and school staff, ‘But he’s so smart.’ It feels dismissive, minimizing the challenges, meltdowns, and therapy sessions that shape our lives. Just because my boys perform academically like their neurotypical peers doesn’t mean their behaviors are a choice. Autism is a spectrum, and it’s essential to remember that children are more than just their academic achievements.” — Mia
“A common myth is that individuals with autism can’t learn new languages. My son was non-verbal at 3, yet at 7, he speaks both English and French fluently. He’s in a French immersion program and has excelled, showcasing that challenges don’t equate to impossibilities.” — Clara
“My daughter, who is 5 and autistic, is often underestimated because she is preverbal. People assume she doesn’t understand when, in reality, she comprehends much more than they realize.” — Emily
“People often treat my son, who is 18 and has severe autism, as if he lacks intelligence because he is non-verbal. However, he has an incredible memory and can navigate complex online paths to share what matters to him. His challenges, like self-injury and anxiety, don’t define his intelligence.” — Hannah
Myth: Autistic Children Lack Social Skills
“A major misconception is that autistic individuals aren’t social. My child yearns for connection, though they may express it differently than expected. It’s crucial for others to make an effort to understand how to communicate with us instead of expecting us to adapt to neurotypical norms.” — Linda
“My daughter, diagnosed at 4, is incredibly outgoing and friendly. People often say she doesn’t ‘look’ autistic because she engages easily with others.” — Sarah
Myth: Autistic Individuals Are All Alike
“Just because someone doesn’t ‘look autistic’ doesn’t mean they aren’t. Also, please refrain from suggesting fads that claim to cure autism. They don’t work. And please, no comments about vaccines causing autism.” — Jenna
“Not all autistic children are similar; each has a unique profile. It’s vital to recognize that they are deserving of love and acceptance just as they are.” — Michelle
“As a parent, I stress the importance of prioritizing autistic voices in discussions and policies about autism. Their experiences can provide invaluable insights.” — Laura
“Many believe that being autistic equates to low IQ, that autism primarily affects boys, or that autistic children will never achieve independence. Each child is unique, and functioning levels depend heavily on support.” — Rachel
“When I share my son’s autism diagnosis, the typical response is surprise followed by reassurances that he ‘doesn’t seem autistic.’ These comments imply that there’s a certain look to autism, which is harmful. His autism is part of who he is, and I wouldn’t change it.” — Amy
Myth: Neurodivergent Children Are Completely Different from Neurotypical Kids
“I’ve been told, ‘I wish I could just make his autism disappear,’ but I wouldn’t want to change my son. His autism is part of what makes him extraordinary. I want society to embrace neurodiversity.” — Anna
“Some think that teaching children to mask their autism is helpful, but it can lead to anxiety and depression. Let them express themselves freely, even if it’s different.” — Tasha
“My son, diagnosed with high-functioning autism, has been misrepresented as aggressive simply because certain environments are overstimulating for him. Autism shapes who he is, but it doesn’t limit his potential.” — Lucy
“It’s essential to remember that the world isn’t designed for neurodiverse individuals. Understanding and kindness go a long way.” — Rachel
“Autistic kids don’t owe anyone their diagnosis, and it’s crucial to foster inclusion without judgment.” — Olivia
In Summary:
This Autism Acceptance Month, it’s vital to dispel common myths about autistic children. Many misconceptions revolve around intelligence, social skills, and individuality. Each child is unique, deserving of love and understanding, and it’s important to foster an inclusive environment that values their differences. For further information on this topic, consider checking out this resource.
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