As I reflect on the first few weeks of my baby’s life, now 10 weeks old, I can’t help but remember the whirlwind of emotions and experiences we faced. The support we received from friends, family, and neighbors was nothing short of extraordinary. Their inventive and practical assistance made all the difference. With new mothers constantly in need of help, I’m sharing some effective ways you can support your favorite new parent:
- Organize a Meal Train. One of my dearest friends set up a meal train for me after both of my children were born, and it was a true lifesaver! Websites like Foodtidings.com and Mealtrain.com make coordinating meal schedules easy and free. We enjoyed home-cooked meals for three weeks straight.
- Deliver a Meal. Whether or not there’s a meal train, bringing a hearty meal for the entire family is always appreciated. From homemade casseroles to takeout from their favorite restaurant, food is a necessity. Don’t forget that breakfast and lunch are just as important!
- Run Errands for Them. On the day I went into labor, I had extensive shopping lists for Target and Costco, and I was thrilled when friends offered to help. Be prepared for a list if you ask, though!
- Surprise Grocery Delivery. In those initial weeks, even remembering what groceries to buy can feel overwhelming. Unexpected deliveries of essentials like snacks, fresh produce, and ready-made meals can be incredibly helpful.
- Take Older Kids Out for a While. What a blessing it was when my friend took my toddler for a few hours! It allowed me to bond with my newborn in peace. This small gesture can be a game changer for tired parents.
- Treat the Family to Dinner. Instead of a meal drop-off, consider taking the new parents out for a nice dinner. They might be craving adult conversation after being home for days on end.
- Clean Their Home or Hire a Service. My mom came over frequently in those early weeks and helped organize my home. If cleaning isn’t your forte, consider gifting a professional cleaning service as a thoughtful gesture.
- Hold the Baby While Mom Catches a Break. Offering to watch the baby while mom showers or naps is a simple yet impactful way to give her some much-needed rest. Even half an hour can feel like a luxury.
- Get Their Car Washed. It may be a long time before your friend can take care of their vehicle again. A clean car can help restore their sense of normalcy.
- Bring Practical Gifts for Everyone. Gifts such as diapers, clothes, or toys are always welcome. Consider including something special for the older siblings to make them feel included during this transitional time.
- Mind Your Visit Duration. It’s important to not overstay your welcome. A brief visit to show your love and support is often more welcomed than a lengthy chat.
- Be Mindful About Bringing Your Kids. Some new parents may prefer to limit visitors, especially other children, in those first weeks. Always check with your friend and ensure that your kids respect the space and the new baby.
- Practice Good Hygiene. Before holding the baby, wash your hands or use hand sanitizer, showing respect for the new family’s health and comfort.
- Offer Words of Encouragement. Positive affirmations can uplift a new mom. Let her know she’s doing a great job and that it’s normal to feel overwhelmed. Be the bright spot in her day!
- Avoid Asking, “What Can I Do?” Instead of asking how you can help, offer specific assistance. Many moms may hesitate to ask for help, so taking the initiative can be more beneficial.
I hope these tips are beneficial for anyone looking to support a new parent! Now, I must go as the little ones are demanding food again, and my standards have officially vanished, but I’ve never been happier.
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