As we navigate through different life phases, friendships can evolve. From childhood to college and into the complexities of adulthood, including parenthood, I’ve experienced the ebb and flow of friendships. Thankfully, I’ve retained many close companions, some of whom have been part of my life for over half of it. As my son approaches his first birthday (yes, I’m still trying to wrap my head around that), I realize that my life has transformed in ways that my childless friends might not fully grasp. Here are some thoughts I’d like to share with you:
- While I appreciate your kindness, I sometimes feel disconnected from the body that carried a child. If I express nostalgia for my pre-baby body, a little encouragement goes a long way—even if it’s a stretch.
- Please refrain from asking for my old clothes. I promise they’ll fit again, just not right now.
- When it comes to choosing between social outings and sleep, sleep wins every time. Even exercise takes a backseat to a few precious hours of rest. Netflix might be a close second, especially if you want to binge-watch together.
- The journey through pregnancy, childbirth, and parenthood is a mix of beauty, strangeness, and exhaustion. I’m not comparing my experiences to military service, but if you’re interested, I’d love to share my “war stories.”
- I genuinely want to enjoy a night out for tacos or martinis, but leaving my child, who still relies on me for comfort, is a tough choice.
- Speaking of pets, while I adore your dog, please don’t equate my sleepless nights with your pup needing to go outside. It’s a different ballgame.
- Your support for my parenting choices means the world, even if you don’t fully understand them. I appreciate your backing when I face judgment for my choices.
- Thank you for offering to help with the diaper bag. Such gestures make a big difference.
- I often reminisce about the carefree days of sleeping in and enjoying uninterrupted slumber, even if now I’d settle for waking up at 9 AM.
- Brunch acts as a bridge between my past and present life as a parent. It’s a great way to enjoy day drinking, delicious food, and the social acceptance of drinking around kids.
- Although it might seem we have little in common now, I assure you that beneath my tired appearance and occasional milk stains, I’m still the same person you’ve always known!
- For those of you desiring to become parents but facing hurdles, I firmly believe you will excel in parenthood when the time is right.
- I greatly appreciate you watching my little one, allowing me to sneak in a shower or a brief moment to scroll through social media uninterrupted.
- Becoming a mom has enhanced my sense of self and confidence in ways I never expected. If you choose to have children one day, I hope you experience this joy as well.
- I cherish the way you connect with my child. Your support and affection are invaluable, and I’m grateful for your friendship during this journey.
Friendships may shift as we move through life, but I’m thankful for those who have remained by my side. To my friends who have weathered the ups and downs of parenthood with me, hold on tight; the adventure is just beginning!
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Summary
: This article shares insights from a new parent to their childless friends, highlighting the shifts in perspective and experiences that come with motherhood. It emphasizes the importance of maintaining friendships despite life changes and expresses appreciation for support and understanding.