When other moms see me, they often ask, “Do you run?” My response is typically, “I run occasionally.” This seldom satisfies their curiosity, especially when they notice my toned arms. But really, that’s just genetics at play.
For a long time, I dabbled in every trendy workout out there—interval training, kickboxing, yoga, Pilates, and even Zumba. I thought I needed to be part of the latest fitness craze, posting updates like, “Just finished CrossFit!” I’ve felt guilty for skipping hot yoga and pondered whether to try the Barre method. But then reality hits. Hot yoga? Not for me—heat makes me feel trapped. Is there such a thing as cold yoga? And the Barre method? I took ballet once in sixth grade, and let’s just say it was not my forte. I’m okay with yoga, but I doubt I’ll ever cultivate a dedicated practice. I still find myself feeling awkward about what workout I should be doing.
“Do you compete in triathlons?” they inquire. I shake my head. “Were you a swimmer?” Another negative response.
What I want to say is, “I don’t do anything structured. I just enjoy moving and sweating.” Their puzzled expressions prompt me to explain further. The only word that truly encapsulates what I do is “Jessica.”
I embody “Jessica” throughout my day. I skip down hallways when no one’s watching, balance on curbs, and park far away from my destinations just to have the chance to skip a little more. I love moving—not for competition, but for the joy of feeling slightly breathless.
I wonder, when did fitness turn into another topic for comparison, like childbirth or intimacy? Haven’t we learned that what works for one individual might not suit another?
There will never be a bumper sticker that represents my approach to fitness. Honestly, I’m not a fan of bumper stickers. What I cherish is the feeling of well-being, and I wish that for everyone. Can we please accept our individual journeys and celebrate each other for simply feeling good?
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Summary
This article reflects on the personal journey of fitness and movement, emphasizing the importance of individual experiences over societal expectations. It encourages readers to celebrate their unique paths to well-being and reject comparisons.