In almost every dance studio across the country, there’s a classic print by Harvey Edwards that captures the essence of a dancer’s life. It showcases a close-up of a dancer’s legs in a fifth position plié, humorously adorned in tattered clothes. The worn tights, frayed leg warmers, and ballet shoes patched with silver duct tape reflect both the struggle and beauty of a dancer’s journey.
As I limped toward my ballet class recently (and approach my 40th birthday), I was reminded of this print. As a mother of a toddler, I hadn’t bothered to change out of my well-worn sweatpants and an old black T-shirt from ages ago. I realized that my playground attire doubled as my dance class outfit. While ballet dancers are often envisioned in sleek pink tights and satin shoes, the reality is that we frequently resemble the dancer in that print.
Mothers with little ones often get teased for their casual clothing choices, yet the artistic struggle of ballet rags has been celebrated. Allow me to highlight the parallels between dancing and motherhood, right down to our comfy attire.
Here are ten ways my experience as a dancer prepared me for the challenges of motherhood:
- Supportive Shoes Are Essential
Just like dancers often trade their ballet shoes for supportive sneakers post-class, mothers quickly learn to appreciate comfort. Whether it’s climbing playground structures or carrying a toddler who insists on being held, proper footwear is a must. - Hair Up, Always
Whether it’s a bun, ponytail, or messy knot, hair is always styled for practicality. With hair in your face, neither pirouettes nor toddler rescues can be executed effectively. Both dancers and mothers have mastered the art of the updo. - A Collection of Pain Relief Items
Years of dance have equipped me with an arsenal of pain relief items. From Epsom salts to heating pads, I’ve learned to manage discomfort, which comes in handy when juggling the demands of motherhood. - Longing for Your Former Self
Both dancers and mothers often grieve their pre-baby bodies. The changes from dance-related injuries or childbirth take a toll, leading to a bittersweet acceptance of how our bodies evolve into new shapes. - The Comparison Game
I often find myself admiring other mothers who manage to look effortlessly chic, while I’m stuck in my leggings and T-shirt. Much like dancers at the barre, it’s easy to fall into the trap of comparison, wondering why we can’t measure up. - What Works Today May Fail Tomorrow
Yesterday’s successful parenting hack can bomb today. Just like in dance, where a move that worked like a charm one day can lead to a tumble the next, motherhood is filled with unpredictable challenges. - Costume Changes Are Routine
No explanation needed—whether it’s a quick outfit change for a dance number or a toddler’s unexpected mess, we’re all too familiar with the need for speedy alterations. - Mastering the Foot Massage
Bedtime becomes a cherished ritual, complete with storybooks and foot rubs. Having spent years pampering my own dancing feet, I find joy in offering the same comfort to my little one. - Striving for Perfection
Every day, I aim for a balance of joy and learning as a mother, just as I strive for precision in dance. Both roles require managing expectations and resilience in the face of setbacks. - Music is a Must
From soothing tunes for my child to upbeat tracks that energize us, music is as crucial in our home as it is in a dance studio. It helps set the mood for everything we do together.
The raw beauty of those ragged dancer’s outfits deserves the same appreciation as the practicality of a mother’s yoga pants. If you’re swift on your feet, possess a keen awareness of your surroundings, and can perform everyday feats of strength while breaking a sweat, you might just be a mother or a dancer. And if you’re interested in exploring your own journey, consider visiting Make a Mom for resources or Intracervical Insemination for guidance on making empowering choices about family building. For comprehensive insights on family planning, Resolve offers an excellent resource.
In summary, the lessons learned in the dance studio translate seamlessly into the challenges of motherhood. Both paths require strength, adaptability, and a willingness to embrace change.