As the warmth of summer arrives, so do the invitations: BBQs, bonfires, and beach outings. While some gatherings are a joy to attend, family events can sometimes feel obligatory and a bit awkward. Here are ten strategies to help you endure these occasions—and possibly enjoy them too:
- Keep Perspective—It’s Just One Day.
Coming from the Northeast, I understand that summer days are precious, but remember that one day spent at a family event can lead to many more days of leisure. - Avoid Political Discussions.
This timeless advice rings especially true during divisive times. If the conversation turns political (which it likely will), steer it in another direction. If that fails, excuse yourself to refresh your drink or interact with a distant relative. - Reflect on Your Presence.
You might not see eye to eye with every family member, but your attendance signifies a deeper value in those connections. - Embrace Light Conversation.
While I appreciate profound discussions, family gatherings often call for lighter banter. It’s perfectly acceptable to indulge in casual chats instead of delving into life’s complexities. - Acknowledge the Distance.
If you haven’t spoken to a relative in ages, don’t expect to form a close bond in just one afternoon. Enjoy the moment, whether it’s sharing a laugh or simply tolerating a corny joke. - Moderate Your Alcohol Intake.
While a cold drink can enhance a summer gathering, too much can lead to regrettable interactions. It’s best to maintain some self-control to keep the atmosphere pleasant. - Choose a Supportive Companion.
Having a buddy—be it a partner or a close friend—can make navigating tricky situations easier. They can help you dodge uncomfortable conversations or steer you away from certain relatives. - Practice Forgiveness.
If you find yourself bombarded with repetitive questions, like “When’s the next baby coming?” remember that relatives often mean well. They’re trying to connect, just like you. - Know Your Limits.
There’s a point where enough is enough. Prepare a quick but witty response for intrusive questions about your life choices. It can help you maintain your composure as you gracefully exit the conversation. - Recognize Their Humanity.
As we grow up, we see our relatives as real people with flaws. Family gatherings are unique in that they bring together individuals who might not typically socialize, so approach them with kindness and acceptance.