As a mother anticipating my third child, the news of yet another boy left me in a whirlwind of emotions. Sure, I was initially surprised—after all, nature is supposed to flip a coin, and we seemed to be stuck on heads! However, the joy of welcoming another little prince quickly overtook my shock. I cherish the role of guiding these future gentlemen; the world certainly needs more of them. The real challenge arises when I share this news with others. Somehow, the mere mention of a third son invites an avalanche of unsolicited comments that suggest having multiple boys is a disappointment.
I understand that I can’t change how others react, and engaging with every annoying remark would only lead me down a path of bitterness. Instead, I’ll air out my thoughts here, hoping it resonates with other moms facing similar judgments and perhaps reaches those who need to rethink their approach.
1. “I hope it’s a girl!”
Surprisingly, I still hear this even after confirming it’s another boy. People often squint at me with pity, as if questioning my certainty. After I assure them I’m excited about my new bundle of joy, they might suggest that ultrasounds can be wrong.
2. “Were you trying for a girl?”
This question caught me off guard at a restaurant recently. A woman casually asked me as if it were as innocent as discussing dinner. I stumbled through my response, feeling exposed as if revealing intimate details about my life was on the agenda. Who made it okay to pry into someone’s private life like that?
3. “Were you disappointed when you found out it wasn’t a girl?”
Seriously? Are you trying to make me cry? It’s clear you think I should be upset, but after two healthy boys, I can’t imagine being anything but thrilled.
4. “At least you won’t have to (insert something here.)”
This phrase always starts with “at least,” which is never a good sign. It implies that the good news I’m sharing is somehow tainted, which is frustrating.
5. “Your husband must be SO excited.”
While it’s common to assume dads want boys and moms want girls, this stereotype is tiresome. I love being a mom to my sons, and it doesn’t mean I’m only here to produce mini versions of myself.
6. “Will you be trying again for a girl?”
It’s like a never-ending interrogation! The questioning can feel invasive, and frankly, it’s no one’s business but mine.
7. “When I found out I was having a boy, I cried.”
This comment came from a stranger in a restroom and caught me off guard. If you felt that way, fine, but why share that with me? I was simply trying to enjoy my day, not delve into your past disappointments.
8. “They say after three kids of the same gender, your body resets and you’ll have the opposite gender.”
This myth was thrown at me right after my ultrasound. I smiled politely, but inwardly I was thinking—who said I was even hoping for a girl?
9. “You’re losing your femininity.”
Really? What does having sons have to do with my identity? I’m still me, regardless of whether I have boys or girls.
10. “Better luck next time!”
This one leaves me speechless. How could anyone think that’s an appropriate thing to say?
Most people who make these comments likely don’t intend any harm. Many are either childless or far removed from the emotional aspects of pregnancy and parenting. While I usually take these remarks lightly, there are days when I just can’t hold back my frustration.
For those navigating similar experiences, I recommend checking out resources on supportive partners at this link. If you’re looking for more insights about pregnancy, you can explore this blog, which offers valuable information. And for anyone considering starting their family journey, our post on this page has useful tips.
Summary: Navigating pregnancy with multiple boys can be met with unsolicited opinions and comments. It’s essential to remember that while people’s intentions may not be harmful, their remarks can often be insensitive. Embracing the joy of having boys and recognizing the privilege of shaping future generations is what truly matters.